Don’t you just love it when guys who decided they didn’t want to pursue anything with you just text you out of the blue asking how you are? I was seeing a guy for a about a month when he said it wouldn’t work out. I was fine with that and wished him luck, then moved on with my life. A year later I get a random text from an unknown number asking me if I went to the F1 race again this year. I knew who it was as I had told this guy I attended F1 in my city, so I immediately knew who it was. I texted back saying ‘you can delete my number, as I am no longer interested you as you were not interested in me’. The vitriol I received in return was so much I blocked them. Why do men think they can just bounce back into your life whenever it suits them and then get pissed when you remind them it was their decision? I just blocked him, but holy entitlement batman!
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I have one ex who drunk texted me at 1am with a completely incoherent message and was offended I didn’t have his number saved when I replied “who is this”
Why even respond? Just block and delete. You know no good can come of it.
He broke up with someone else and didn’t want to wait to find someone to fill the gap. You were supposed to be available for his convenience, but only until he found someone he liked better.
Had a guy ghost me after we got halfway through making plans to see each other a particular weekend following 6 months of flirting. I moved on. 2 months after he sends me a song title out of the blue telling me it reminded him of me (barf) and when I confronted him about the fact that he went radio silent without warning before deciding to sidle back into my life like nothing happened, he told me he was “glad to see my true colors”. Dude. Fuck all the way off.
They get super mad when women make choices. They’re the ones who make the choices. /s
I got a “hi 👋” text from a one night stand SEVEN YEARS later.
Before I changed my number I was always getting this type of text. I don’t understand the point. It’s just so desperate. Instant Ick.
They are fishing, hoping they’ll hook you. Block and delete.
I apologize for being off topic, but what F1 race did you go to!
And also, did you go again this year? Asking for a friend…
Had this happen with several people. One broke up with me to get back with his ex and a year and a half later texted me out of the blue asking about my big bed. When I said “did you break yours?” He lost his shit on me.
Another stood me up on first meeting and was absolutely shocked that I had no interest in trying a second time 9 months later. Eww
I had to change my number because random men I had interacted with started calling me at 2am. Not people I dated, but someone I knew from high school, or someone that was friends with someone I dated. The guy I was dating was convinced I was talking to these guys regularly until I changed my number.
Lol, I ghosted a dude once after a few dates bc he was cringe, thought women only went out with men to get a free meal, yet also got offended when I insisted on paying for my own half (because he presumably felt that paying for our drinks and apps entitled him to something else). A year later dude texts me asking me out again, apologizes for ghosting ME (lol, sure buddy) but “another girl [he] was seeing at the time was just so much more assertive than [me] in her desire to spend time with [him],” but now that they were broken up he’d love to see me again. I basically just “lol, ew”-ed him but in hindsight I wish I’d told him explicitly how gross that was.
I just had a guy who owes me 4k try to come back into my life after 12 years!!
They hang on to your number because it might get them laid some day.
I have 2 guys who text me every 3 or 4 months. I say I’m sorry I’ve deleted their number so I don’t know who it is, then ask why the disappeared for the last few months….they don’t like that
They think that if they put us on a shelf they are able to pick us back up any time they please.
I went on two dates with a guy who said he didn’t want a third date because I wasn’t sexy enough and he likes girls who dress “a little sluttier.” Well, fine, no third date. (Also, for the record, I like sexy lingerie, I just cover it when out in public. I have a wrap dress that’s completely respectable but I can pull the tie and wiggle my shoulders and it just drops to the floor, so I can go from “classy and elegant and meet your grandma” to “nearly naked” in like ten seconds, which is fun. There’s something satisfying about the way that shorts out a guy’s brain.)
Anyway: six months later I got a text from an unknown number asking something like “So did you ever get any short skirts?” I showed it to a friend and we tried to figure out who would possibly send a text like that. I finally decided it was probably that guy and deleted the text and blocked the number.
Just because he wasn’t interested romantically or sexually wouldn’t, in my book, preclude interaction on a shared , neutral interest like F1 racing.
I am long out of the dating pool, but I have niche interests and occasionally hear from people in a wide social group after long intervals about those niche interests. Say, did you see Pirates of Penzance at U of C this year? Wasn’t the Pirate King great?
Ugh, how frustrating. Sometimes the loudest thing you can say to someone like that is nothing at all.
I think some people get off on being disruptive and I just move past it as quickly and quietly as possible.
I hope you left him on ‘read’ a nice long while before blocking. They hate that so much!