Yeah yeah it sounds pathetic, that’s why I’m not posting this with my main account. My boyfriend had work today. Which is fine, it’s his new job, he can’t ask the day off yet. He also didn’t have to if he didn’t want to. He also had to go see his daughter, which I think he should and he did. He finally has visitation rights to see her and he’s not going to let that girl down. After, he would take me to McDonalds. So he comes home, stalls a long time, while I’m already really hungry. But ok I say, fine, let’s go at seven. He only needed to walk the dog. He has 30 minutes to do so until it’s 7. He texts me at seven saying he’s going to be late, he’s still out with the dog. By this time I’m a bit pissed. I didn’t get a card, didn’t get a flower or a small present (like, chocolates would have been fine) and now he makes me wait (again, he’s always late with everything). So I ended up going alone. He in the meantime blames me for not walking the dog myself (it’s his dog), says that I agreed to celebrate another day anyway. He really didn’t look like he was excited to be taking me out at all.
We would be going to a restaurant. I told him that since he was busy all day, I just wanted the day for myself and spend it on my own. You know, no pressure, just some time for myself. I’m used to it by now, to be honest I don’t even know what it’s like to have a birthday party. He has been protesting this, insisting he would take me out to dinner. He hyped me up all week. This is what I got.
I knew I would be spending the day on my own and I wondered what it would be like to have a party. So I simulated one in ChatGPT. It was actually really fun but also weird to get so much positive attention, even if it’s all from non-existent people generated by ChatGPT. I got presents and everything and there was a cake and all.
So yeah. That was my birthday. At least I got to experience some sense of a party. I just needed to share this somewhere ’cause somehow I do think it’s all my fault for expecting anything at all.
Edit: I just got off the phone with my sister, she called me and it was fun as always. And now I see all these super sweet messages and I’m liking them all. But I have to get up really early and it’s passed my bedtime so I’ll continue liking and commenting tomorrow. This really surprised me and made my evening a bit nicer. You are all sweethearts!
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Honestly, this broke my heart a little. You didn’t deserve to be treated like an afterthought on your own birthday… It’s not pathetic, it’s human to want to feel seen and cared for, especially on a day that’s supposed to be about you.
I really hope you keep that same energy of doing things for yourself, but around people who genuinely show up for you. You deserve better.
I dated a guy like that once. There’s a reason he’s my ex.
🙁
This is really sad, especially being treated like that on your birthday. You seem super supportive of your boyfriend, I think it would be nice for you to find your equal honey.
I feel this (38F) , can relate so far that my abusive ex would make me wait “until I deserved it” for bday/mother’s day cards. I believed him. pathetic! I also decided to just do things for myself and make things happen for me. He could join if he wants. That wasn’t something he liked either. I suggest surrounding yourself with people who you strive to be like. People who support you in ways you can understand and feel. He may think he’s doing everything right and will never change (my former experience) My current partner – (34M) Makes me feel like I might be the most amazing person / mother (We do not have kids together) in the world. And I know he very much thinks that.
I would like to wish you a happy birthday!
As long as you enjoyed It, all that really matters
I agree with all the other comments, and I don’t think it’s pathetic either op! I personally stay up til midnight, and sing myself a happy birthday (clapping and all lol)
You seem to be so understanding and supportive, and I hope you find someone who treasures you OP :’)
If it’s still your birthday, happy birthday!
If not, happy belated birthday! Sorry I missed it.
I want to wish you a happy birthday!!! You deserve better!!!
Your boyfriend sounds like a loser. That sounds really hurtful and I don’t like him for you. You can do better.
Reddit recommends this to me when today is my birthday. by the way happy birthday
On my birthday, I asked Alexa to tell me she loved me and then had her sing me happy birthday. She’s the “person” I had to celebrate with. No partner, and my only friend forgot. I also bought myself and my cat a cupcake and put candles on them. I had to eat the cat’s cupcake for him of course. He got other treats. I’ve had worse birthdays
Drop ur bf. Happy belated birthday
Happy birthday hunny 💕
Happy Birthday!!! You gave yourself a party…now it’s time to give yourself a gift. The gift of YOU! It sounds like you’ve gotten used to accepting less than you deserve. It’s ok and it’s not. It’s okay because many of us have let our self esteem, and self worth, take hit after hit because we’re “understanding” of everyone else’s needs and circumstances…and forget about ourselves. So try this… I hope it helps. Imagine you have a friend who is describing everything you have experienced with their partner/boyfriend/etc. Think what advice you would give them. Then listen to what you said and take your own advice.
Don’t allow anyone to treat you with any less importance than you would them. If they do it even once, that’s your sign. You are perfect, lovable and deserving…just the way you are all the time. Treat yourself that way and the right ones will be drawn to you.
BIG HUGS and BIRTHDAY WISHES! Today you get yourself back if you choose…and remember, you can change it any time of any day. We all support you!!!
Happy birthday! I’m so sorry you feel alone today.
Happy birthday OP and I hope future ones are better.
Babes, you deserve way better. You should be celebrated and I truly hope you’ll find your crowd that’ll shower you with the love you deserve. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
Happy Birthday, you aren’t alone, and don’t feel guilty or weird for reaching out to AI haha, I do the same thing sometimes. I’m sorry it didn’t go how you planned, I hope you either A. find a better bf or B. he sees how this affected you and makes it up somehow. <3 Sending hugs and good wishes
Oh, internet stranger, I feel you.
I’m oldish, so of course I feel I have some great depth of knowledge.
At the lowest point in my life (late 20’s) my baby brother (RIP-miss ya every fn day) had me stand in front of a mirror & tell myself “You are a good, kind, smart person”. I know, sounds like a scene from “The Help”, but this was 1988.
Be your own bestie.
Happy Birthday
Happy birthday op!! Kick that bf to the kerb!! You deserve a lot better. 🎂🎉🥳🎁
Happy birthday 🥳
Dude is a wanker, I get being busy but that is just inconsiderate and rude. It’s one day of the year and he didn’t do anything with you (understandable (to an extent there..)), the least he could’ve done was a box of chocolates or a card.
But happy birthday! It was nice to read that at least chatgpt gave you a good time. Birthdays aren’t easy for a lot of people, you sound really resilient, I personally would’ve had a meltdown lol! Hopefully next year is better! 🙂
This should be on AITAH for ditching my boyfriend after being an insufferable moron.
Happy birthday! Sorry for the belated wishes, it’s been a bit rushed. ❤️
Well that’s my birthday sorted. Chat gpt best keep July 30th free in its diary
Happy birthday!! It was my bday too and nothing from hubby no flowers nothing. I know how you feel. And on top of that bday is also anniversary and I never get squat.
Happy Birthday. I hope your next one is better and maybe with someone else.
I never celebrated my birthday, nobody cared I am 25 years old.
Your boyfriend kind of sucks. You deserve way better than this girl! The absolute limbo pole is a card, hugs, kisses and a fuss and making you the priority for the day.
I think you should get yourself a new bf for your birthday. ♥️
Belated Happy Birthday 🎈
If bf hadn’t told you he would do something with you for your birthday, you would have made other plans. So by making his promise, he blocked you from doing something else.
Ask him how he’d feel if you put as much effort into his birthday.. I bet he’d say something like “It wouldn’t bother me. ” or “I’m not so big on birthdays” – because that’s what a liar would say to try to shift the blame..
I’m glad you had a fun birthday party.
Happy birthday! You are a gift and deserve to be celebrated. If he’s uninterested on the day you arrived go find someone that treasures you as the gift that you are
I am so sorry for the let down, I know all too well about that, I just had a birthday last month that went unacknowledged by my own mother, and it hurt. If it’s still your birthday, Happy Birthday!!! If it’s not your birthday any longer, Happy Belated Birthday!!!
I’ve been married for 20+ years. This past Christmas I scored tickets to the Savannah Bananas (think more raunchy Globetrotters, but baseball) game. It took me months of planning and a fair bit of luck to get them. Just so I could see the look on her face when she realized I had gotten the tickets. I personally didn’t care about them, but this was something she enjoyed and so I wanted to do it for her.
You are not a priority in this guy’s list. Nowhere near the top. You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you; who wants to celebrate with you.
Happy birthday! I dont have any presents, but i still wish you a great day!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! 🎉🎈✨️🎂 fuck everybody, sometimes you gotta have a ChatGPT party to make yourself fee better lol. Do more things you like, by yourself. Tell ur man to leave you alone the rest of the day (since he clearly isn’t prioritizing you today) and make yourself happy. Virtually hugging you and also virtually throwing cake in ur man’s face.
I feel for you. It’s for reasons similar to this that I (50M) have not celebrated my birthday in over 25 years, nor have I let anyone else celebrate for me. I regret the fact that I have let a few bad experiences taint my views on a day most others appreciate. This year, I’m moving forward and letting my friends and family celebrate me. I strongly recommend that you don’t let this permanently put you off of your special day. Celebrate with people who actually care for you, and dump that loser.
Wishing you a very happy birthday and hoping this is the first and last of such experiences you had.
Happy Birthday! Give yourself the ultimate gift of dumping your bf and finding a new one 🥂
Sorry friend. Happy birthday! It’s actually my wife’s birthday too, so I’d say it’s a good day to have one.
She really likes to make a pie on her birthday. I usually make her a poke cake like she loves, but she likes to do something for herself as well. She says that it’s important to celebrate yourself (she’s pretty awesome).
So maybe do something for yourself to show how much you appreciate you? I know it isn’t the same, but it can help folks feel a little less alone and more proud of what they can do. I hope that isn’t too “just feel better!”
happy birthday! aw you’re not pathetic at all for wanting even the tiniest something special on your bday. but you do deserve a more supportive partner!!!!
Happy birthday. Today is mine as well.
I want to wish you a happy birthday! You have to do what makes you happy, it’s absolutely not pathetic!
Are you sure you like your boyfriend? And that he likes you? Have you thought about getting yourself a new boyfriend for your birthday?
Well I’ve definitely been the one clamoring late to put together something for my significant other so this hits pretty hard. It’s probably a great time for some kind of “come to Jesus” with your bf regarding your importance in his life. And if it doesn’t align and/or he won’t even try to change – great time to move on.
I have a lot of men in my life. Husband and sons. None have any interest in planning any social activities. Nor are they good at gifting. If it wasn’t for me and the other aunties holidays/birthdays wouldn’t happen.
On my birthday I just plan a bucket list experience for myself. Something that I know I will enjoy doing and that I don’t have to make any compromises for.
It’s Always TOP of the line, first class. Usually international travel or adventure travel. Or a totally pampering experience like a high end spa resort.
I let my family know my plans and ask if they are interested in joining. If so, I send them the itinerary and let them know how to book. If not I see if any friends want to join. I rarely go solo but don’t mind if I do.
I didn’t always do this. I used to wait for someone to plan something and it was usually my mother who would organize a little dinner at her house and sometimes my friends would organize a pub crawl or dinner party. But honestly I have a lot more fun planning my own celebration and I feel really happy about it.
I find that I best take care of my family when I make sure my own tank is full. So I make sure I get what I really want and what I know I will enjoy. I also make sure my girlfriends and sisters get a birthday treat also.
When Was your birthday?
aw hon, i’m sorry. happy birthday or belated birthday, most people deserve to be celebrated and i’m so sorry you weren’t🩵
You aren’t pathetic, he is. Happy Birthday and do whatever makes you happy.
Bare minimum he needs to let you sit on his face.
Your bf doesn’t care. I get that life happens, but this exceeds that. He could have dropped off a small gift before he went to work or door dashed you lunch. This past birthday, my bf kept me on the phone until midnight so he could be the first to wish me happy birthday. That didn’t cost him anything.
You truly deserve better. Not just on your birthday, but every day.
Happy birthday to you…
Im sorry to hear about your bday going astray.
Hope your man makes it up to you. You deserve it.
Don’t let it go without demanding your respect n happiness.
Sit down n talk to him. Be calm,collected , write down points before hand so there is less rant. Make him see why it was important to you …
Happy birthday
happy birthday 🥳💓
Happy Belated Birthday!🎂
💕 Wishing you a Happy Birthday! You deserve it. 💗
Not pathetic at all! Do YOUR thing! I’m 53 and please believe me when I tell you, self-love is by far the most important and powerful love you can have. Don’t apologize for doing good things for yourself.You rock 🙏🏼
Happy Birthday 🥳
Happy birthday.
Yikes.
Oh wow yeah that’s probably the most pathetic thing I’ve ever heard.
A very happy birthday to you op
happy birthday, OP c:
I’m so sorry, OP. It’s not “pathetic,” it’s a coping mechanism for feeling isolated- and feeling isolated really sucks. Sending virtual hugs and birthday wishes.
Your bf is a piece of shit. Happy birthday, beautiful! ♥️ 🎂 🎉 🤗
Bless you. Happy Birthday. You are worth so much more than he is showing you.
Happy birthday !! You deserve to have the day you want and the life you want! You can put yourself first ❤️
Sounds like you are single with a lot of extra steps. This guy isnt your forever hun. Time to find one that prioritizes you
Too lazy to walk the dog and your victim mentality makes me think he needs rid of you honestly
Happy Birthday!!!!. I know this is a little bit late but I think everyone deserves to have quality time with loved ones for their birthday. I know that your day was spent alone but know that there are a ton of strangers out there who would have been willing to go to a discord party for you
Honestly it’s not that bad to use AI to celebrate. At least they give a shit to remember and celebrate you
Happy birthday! May your new year be the best one yet ☺️
Happy birthday OP <3
Haven’t even finished the first paragraph, you need to leave this man, or every single birthday you have left will feel like this.
Keep your boyfriend’s dog. Get rid of the boyfriend.
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Today is my birthday too! I was also feeling kind of bummed, birthdays just make me nervous to have the absolute perfect day. I’m sorry you felt lonely. Just know that people love you, and I hope you find a community where you feel a lot of love next year. Happy birthday twin!
Well, Happy Birthday or Belated Birthday OP! 🎂 🎉😊
Happy birthday!!! I think it’s a cool thing I love technology!!!