Nobody will show up to my funeral. How can I change that?

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As I sit on my couch alone. I’ve come to the realization that if I were to die tomorrow, nobody would come to my funeral. Nobody would miss me, or remember me, or even care. I am alone. My family has cut me off and they hate my guts. The last friend I had was from when I was in middle school.

I’m not throwing a pity party, but just stating the facts of my situation.

As an adult male, can someone please give me some advice on how I can make friends? If I had even just one close friend, I would be content with my life. What am I doing wrong? I don’t get it.

Comments

  1. satansayssurfsup Avatar

    Be nice to people

  2. Mess_Tricky Avatar

    Are you open to reconnecting with your family? If you made mistakes, apologize? If they did, forgive them and move on?

  3. LogicalTerm9163 Avatar

    You might need to take ownership of your past, front up on some people and say sorry, win back the people you’ve lost – make that funeral a rager 🤘🏼

  4. Aussie_solo_guy Avatar

    years ago i found myself in a similar position. so i went and volunteered with a volunteer emergency service, gained a bunch of new skills and met a bunch of awesome people… added bonus i managed to save a few lives in the process

  5. GamingFarang Avatar

    First, why does your family hate you?

    Second, have you ever had any friends? What happened to them?

    Third, what are your hobbies?

    Fourth? Do you ever get out of your comfort zone to meet people?

  6. Chrom-man-and-Robin Avatar

    You can make friends by talking to people, whether they be coworkers, colleagues, acquaintances, or random people. Find a hobby you enjoy and look for people to talk with in those circles.

  7. OneQt314 Avatar

    Go volunteer. You’ll learn what gratefulness means. Life changes once the concept is grasped.

  8. RanOutOfJokes Avatar

    Charity Work, not a donation but your time if you have any. A little time, a listening ear and some kindness leaves a big impression to those in need.

  9. PSFREAK33 Avatar

    Raffle Prizes

  10. spotH3D Avatar

    Find groups to participate in, volunteer, be a mentor.

  11. snugglz420 Avatar
  12. LibretarianGuy80085 Avatar

    Pay people to come?

  13. SimplyJustDontKnow Avatar

    Go to places where you can meet other people. Sports, church, become a volunteer, work, etc etc. But also try to self reflect. Why does your family hate you? Why don’t you have any friends or other people around you who care about you? Is there something in your personality that can be changed? Are you to scared to meet other people? Don’t you know how to interact? Etc etc. And if there are some things wonder yourself how you can change these things.

  14. ThicccBoiiiG Avatar

    This may sound harsh but if you have absolutely no one you gotta do some serious self reflection.

    Figure out what it is you do that repels people and fix it.

  15. fartdiarrhoeasound Avatar

    stop the pity party, read a book go outside, work on your self the rest will follow.