I honestly feel so guilty lying to all my exs that they have made me finish during intimacy but I didn’t want them to think it was because the expirance was bad and having intimate time isn’t important to me so for the most part it didn’t matter to me. It’s just harder for me and I haven’t met a lot of guys that just know female anatomy….
But The fact that they can’t make me finish, the longer we are in a relationship, having intimate times for me becomes more frustrating to have if we’re having it very frequently within a day since I’m left segsually frustrated afterward and I’m having to go and finish myself off within the bathroom after.
I’m aware it’s my fault for not communicating and lying to them that it’s not working for me but (for e.g) my most recent ex was almost demanding of intimacy 3+ a day and I was just doing it as a chore so he wouldn’t ignore me when I said no… I was mainly scared of his reaction to me hurting his ego.
I have worked on myself the last few months and I have promised myself to no longer lie and fake that I have finished when I haven’t. And be more open and informative towards my new partner about what works for me ~
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Sounds like ME
My wife finish first (always) the pure orgasm of a woman is just magical for me. Then me. After that we can go for round 2. 15years together, 7years married.
I always faked in my 20s! Once I hit 30 I stopped doing that. Find a guy that will get you off first. A guy who is good in bed will understand that and gets off by doing so. Stop lying cus it makes them work for it. Just be clear and direct.