Ok so this is follow up to my post from 3 days ago
https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/s/41Gve1RBdZ
I took your advice and didn’t actually send the message myself.
My husband being my knight in shining armor crafted a response with me. We touched on all the most important notes my MIL brought up, aka saying “stop talking shit about my wife I am done with your prejudice and incestuous attachment to me, I’m 30 years old and have a family of my own, grow up”. Also adding at the end this is the last time we try to extend a bridge to you, if you want to be in our lives it will be on our terms otherwise don’t text us anymore.
My mil being the insecure drama queen that she is has been on a 10 year campaign against me at his entire family (and brothers) and of course has been talking shit about us since March to them. Especially his middle brother whom my DH games with almost daily. Well she’s fully turned him against us now, to the point that he messaged my husband after the text was sent telling him we’re narcissists, we don’t get to control the narrative and we’re acting like children and that he doesn’t want to see us anymore because we gave his parents an ultimatum and he doesn’t wanna come to our baby shower.
I’m just in awe. I’m in pain for my husband because he deserves so much better than this bullshit just for standing his ground against a toxic environment and I don’t know what to do to make it better for him. Gaming was his getaway after a stressful day at work and now that’s taken too cause his brother was involved. I’m so upset for him. We both deserve better. Our baby deserves better. This dysfunctional family he was a part of is off the rails and everyone just wants to cater to the beast so they can avoid this shit show but look what happens when you stand against it.
I’m just in awe. I hate everything. Since November it just feels like I’m in the upside down and nothing makes sense anymore. Why do the crazy people get to set the narrative? Why does the toddler win? Why do facts matter less than dramatic performances and why the fuck is common sense so not common?
I feel like I’m going crazy. Help.
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