Essentially, I just finished wrapping up A LOT of school around 30 years old. Growing up, I thought at this point I would have a girlfriend (or a wife), kids, a house, friends, hobbies, and a stellar mancave.
Fast-forward to today, and that really is not the reality. Despite working hard in school for so long, I don’t have many prospects for a good job given the current state of jobs. Been single with no long term pattern at all for a long while now. I’ve also let myself go and am not as healthy as I was before school and starting this process. And, it sounds so vain, but I’m tired of being poor. Not having money for seven years is exhausting, especially with a lack of great health insurance.
I always thought those things would just work out, but they haven’t. And, if I’m being honest, I’m envious of my friends who it did work out for. The relationships that seemed to just fall into place; the job that happened out of the blue where they are making good, solid money. There’s just a lot of frustration around the block on all of these issues.
Is it normal or even appropriate for me to be feeling this way? I feel like a whiny cry-baby for even having these feelings. I know hard work and trying to be a good person doesn’t mean those things are guaranteed to work out, but I do feel envious and guilty of other people.
Any thoughts on this?
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