I have had a close friendship (not romantic relationship) with a woman, Jimmy, for around 6 months, like best friends and it was amazing, we both had so much in common, and liked eachother so much and spent so much time together, aswell as this we were both nice to eachother, she is a very, close to herself, private and quiet person, very kind and sweet, and not gloating but id say I was very nice to Jimmy, overall we were great friends, it was obviously we both COULD like eachother more than friends but it never went to that.
We would constantly go on walks together and so on and just do alot of things together, again not romantically but as friends, but always with room to be more than friends. Looking back on our messages we were super close and liked eachother alot. But I never was “You must love me Now!” or anything nor did either of us try to put anything further but it was obvious we both liked eachother more than friends.
Now that I blabbered that we were friends, out of nowhere I was ignored online and didnt see her in person for 2 weeks, eventually I saw her again but completely differently, Jimmy changed so much. If anyone has seen INVINCIBLE, its like Nolan before and after he fights with Mark. I dont think that I “own” her and shouldnt allow her to change but its like a practically different person, shes far less closed off and quiet and timid, now loud, constantly making sex jokes, before she was like very kept to herself, now shes touchy but barely talks to me? I feel like a fatass dog looking up at their owner to give them food, Im constantly trying to talk to her but its like im not even here anymore, which is where I am now.
Obviously Im saddened but she has a right to fall in love with who she wishes but, Im constantly seeing her with his other guy, Billy who shes known for like a week?. And I feel, again, like a dog looking for attention. She asked if I wanted to come out with her, which usually is just Jimmy and I, I agreed assuming, its jimmy and I. But Billy was there, after 5 minutes of third wheeling and just feeling like I didnt fit in because they are both from denmark, or are of denmark origin, and speak, denmarkish? And I dont speak denmarkish, so Im just third wheeling because, I dont understand anything and just feeling awkward, they were both so touchy, more like she was touchy all over Billy and occasionally they would say my name and start laughing, and it was clear she was in love with this guy. I said id leave because theres no point in me being there but she asked me over and over to stay, so I did, but since I dont speak Denmarkish I just walked along with him, not saying anything. Until Jimmy started asking why I wasnt talking, and then saying “Is it because hes actually got a attractive voice” or something along those lines, and these little comments kept happening and it was kind of de-humanizing. Eventually I just left because I felt really embarrassed particularly infront of her whom I still like.
And then a day later, Im messaging her online, and abruptly she sends me nudes of herself, which you would kind of think its a somewhat way of going forwards I guess? you know? But then the next day Im ignored again, and then because we live in the same place I am seeing her all over Billy every. single. day. while entirely ignoring me. And it feels so embarrassing and degrading, Im seeking attention and want to be with Jimmy, but Jimmy has changed out of nowhere and is practically a different person and is constantly ignoring me and all over another guy.
Is there anything I can do? Ive been trying to get over it and move forward for the past few days but I cant. I just want to be with the Jimmy I knew before and at the same time, want attention from Jimmy, particularly the attention shes giving to another man.
Worth mentioning, her name isnt actually Jimmy, and billys name, isnt actully billy.
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Ok, Jimmy is not in to you. Jimmy will never be in to you. Even if she had slight slight slight feelings, she isn’t even going to recognise them until she sees you have moved on and realises what she is missing out on. By then, trust me, it will be too late, you won’t even look at her the same way. You seem like a lovely guy. Don’t be a door mat. Move on and don’t look back. Ever. Jimmy is not going to be your wife. A partner is not meant to make you feel so low. You will meet a girl one day who actually makes you feel loved and appreciated. Run. Run very very fast. She is toxic. The nudes is pure manipulation. Don’t ever let her know she has got to you, smile and wave when you see her, hold your head high, be nice and move on.
I’m sorry but it sounds like your female friend, Jimmy, doesn’t want a romantic relationship with you. I’m concerned that she might even be making fun of you to her current boyfriend. I would delete the nude pictures and forget about her. Find someone who is worthy of your affection.