Men would rather drag the country into fascism than develop the kind of social and emotional skills that would make them happier within themselves and better as partners, is what I’m taking away from that piece.
Having read a not-zero number of pieces now on why men really want relationships and women do not, I am getting real sick of everyone focusing on how it’s because women are opting out and NOT on how men have seen what women wanted and decided they won’t put in the effort but still feel entitled to someone else’s time, attention and energy. Like, why are we not looking more at why men refuse to level up?
Super interesting article, thanks for posting it! I did not realise that three-times-married Steven Harvey wrote a book mansplaining to women how to find a man, but… of course he did 😭
This also made me chuckle:
>WOLFE: It’s the case that more and more women just really seem to be saying, you know what? I’m not getting what I am putting into dating. Or, as I saw somebody’s responded on Reddit, the juice isn’t worth the squeeze.
*waves hello to any NPR journalists who might be lurking here*
But, yeah, to get more serious about it, I am also someone who has also really noticed the gap between single women who have their shit together and single men who really do not (and project both their personal and romantic failures back onto the women who do not want them). I got lucky in my own love life, but am extremely sympathetic to single women trying to date nowadays – I know it fucking sucks out there so I will always support the single women, whether they’re loving single life or simply making the best out of an undesirable situation. It’s really not a meritocracy and I’m extremely aware that if I hadn’t met my husband when I did, I’d probably be on the exact same rollercoaster.
This makes me fearful for my kids (now teens). I have a very happy marriage with a partner who respects me and treats me as a true equal. He’s my best friend and safe space from the world. He makes my life better and happier in so many different ways. It makes me sad to think my kids may never find this because the sexes are growing so far apart and dating is so difficult nowadays.
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Men would rather drag the country into fascism than develop the kind of social and emotional skills that would make them happier within themselves and better as partners, is what I’m taking away from that piece.
Having read a not-zero number of pieces now on why men really want relationships and women do not, I am getting real sick of everyone focusing on how it’s because women are opting out and NOT on how men have seen what women wanted and decided they won’t put in the effort but still feel entitled to someone else’s time, attention and energy. Like, why are we not looking more at why men refuse to level up?
Super interesting article, thanks for posting it! I did not realise that three-times-married Steven Harvey wrote a book mansplaining to women how to find a man, but… of course he did 😭
This also made me chuckle:
>WOLFE: It’s the case that more and more women just really seem to be saying, you know what? I’m not getting what I am putting into dating. Or, as I saw somebody’s responded on Reddit, the juice isn’t worth the squeeze.
*waves hello to any NPR journalists who might be lurking here*
But, yeah, to get more serious about it, I am also someone who has also really noticed the gap between single women who have their shit together and single men who really do not (and project both their personal and romantic failures back onto the women who do not want them). I got lucky in my own love life, but am extremely sympathetic to single women trying to date nowadays – I know it fucking sucks out there so I will always support the single women, whether they’re loving single life or simply making the best out of an undesirable situation. It’s really not a meritocracy and I’m extremely aware that if I hadn’t met my husband when I did, I’d probably be on the exact same rollercoaster.
Rapists can choose the mothers of his kids even if she is a kid, herself.
Why on Earth would anybody except Republican gender traitors want to get married?
This makes me fearful for my kids (now teens). I have a very happy marriage with a partner who respects me and treats me as a true equal. He’s my best friend and safe space from the world. He makes my life better and happier in so many different ways. It makes me sad to think my kids may never find this because the sexes are growing so far apart and dating is so difficult nowadays.
Men: ✅ Spend $150 and 5 hours out at the bar weekly
❌ Go to therapy