I (22M) am with my gf (24F) for 6 months now. She is my first gf and I am her 8th bf.
The problem is that since she told me about her past relationships, almost everyday I think about that, making scenarios, thinking about what was in her mind and all the bad things.
Her last relationship lasted for almost 3 years (the one before me) and event before this one, the majority of her relationships lasted for 6 months +. But she was fwb with a guy when she was 18 and even did a FFM threesome with him and I am honest that i judge her for that and I know I am not right to do that. And she had another partner for almost 3 months.
The thing is besides this problem, I don’t have anything to complain about our relationship. I see in her eyes, in her actions, in her words how much she loves me and she never made me jealous or suspicious. I am pretty sure I am not blinded and not seeing redflags or something bad,and because of that I got to say that our relationship is very beautiful, and I don’t want to lose this.
I talked with her about many insecurities and especially this problem, and she told me that she always looked for a serious relationship, wanted to feel loved and give love, and didn’t look for ONS etc. She told me that she was immature, she had a little low self respect and didn’t know exactly what she wanted from a guy and broke up because she didn’t like how she was treated.
The problem with my thoughts is that this difference between us makes me feel bad, insecure and that I am in love with someone who doesn’t share the same values about love as me, given that she “flew” from a relationship to another.
I know how much I love her and how much she loves me and how good she is, and I really want to get over this bs that is happening in my head, but I don’t know how and if I will ever do it. Do you have any suggestions or past experiences or anything that would help me pls?
TL;DR: I (22M) am dating my first girlfriend (24F) for 6 months. She’s had 7 past boyfriends (some long-term, one FWB, and once a threesome). Even though she shows me real love and our relationship is great, I keep overthinking her past, comparing values, and feeling insecure. I want to stop these thoughts and not ruin something beautiful—how can I get over this?