OF girls of Reddit. How do you or did you approach dating while earning/ creating content on the platform? Did your dynamic change when you entered a relationship?
OF girls of Reddit. How do you or did you approach dating while earning/ creating content on the platform? Did your dynamic change when you entered a relationship?
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A friend of mine’s girl does OF. Dude even showed us what she posts.
It’s pretty much just masturbation videos with an option to pay a lot more for personalized videos. But she doesn’t post her face, and according to my boy, that’s the distinction that makes him fine with it
I would try to figure out if she does scenes solo or with others in the industry. I think that would probably be my main hold up. I could date someone doing solo content but I could never be with someone who does scenes with others. But to each their own.
My ex started doing Escort. I think it was cool, but her ego got over the top and the dynamic changed.
My recent ex gf has an OF. We dated for almost 2 years.
She used to have a filming partner for years but (luckily) for me, they stopped working together just before we met each other, as she told me she filmed with him several times a week while having other serious boyfriends with which she did not film, but this guy was almost 15 years older than her (she was 24 when we started dating and they filmed together for 6 years)… Bad guy.
She just switched to solo content for about 8 months until she wanted me to film with her.
But I’m sure her previous boyfriends all felt insecure about it, there’s no way they didn’t since the content was pretty hardcore bdsm, and her regulars liked to pay for hardcore custom videos. She was a big sub in her videos, but also had simp sub regulars in the same city she dommed with the help of older guy in person while having serious boyfriends.
I felt insecure even though I had dommed women I dated hardcordly before, because of how hardcore she used to be, and I didn’t even get to see that content and she stopped doing all that while dating me, unlike with her previous partners. I didn’t ask her to, though, she just said she was done for the time with hardcore stuff. Older guy was out of the picture for good for several reasons.
Edit: She also has the OF link in her personal public instagram, pretty much everyone that knows her including her family knows of it, so I just wondered sometimes which of her friends and my friends watched her, and our videos. Her face is in all of them but not mine, only clear views of my apartment.
Ive never understood why people pay for only fans, i was like “bro, free porn exists” and one of my homies hit me with this profound realization. “Your not paying for standard porn, you pay for personalized videos. You can ask her to like dress in mandalorian armor, call out your name, and move the camera to a pov with her titties bouncing and stuff!” I understood then, when i watched him get excited explaining that. That…thats pretty cool.
Your basically commissioning artistic porn videos for you. Tailored for you. And just like artists who charge for more to make a dope ass piece of commissioned art, thats what your paying for.
Its still not my cup of tea, but at least now i dont view it as negatively. That said, if my girl was doing it, id just ask she cover her face. So i can at least pretend to friends and family that she hasnt been seen by the world.
Damn this thread is cringe as fuck
My girlfriend has onlyfans. Nothing’s changed, except now she’ll buy dinner for us once in a while.
(Together 6 years, Onlyfans for 4 years)
Lot of cucks here
Calling it OF creator or earner is euphemistic af. They are a prostitute or sex worker.
I’ve absolutely nothing against it, but you should call it what it is so no one is kidding themselves or getting into something they’ll seriously regret.
Scrolled so so far down and every response is from a dude
I did OF while in a relationship but if one of you is insecure it’ll show very quick ¯_(ツ)_/¯
I’m not on OF anymore I’m on a different site but similar principle. My fiancé is a porn addict and he liked the idea of helping me with making content. I don’t make a lot (20$ every 2 months or so) and I’m not consistent with making content but when I want some extra stuff he films me and takes pictures for me.
I was open from the beginning that posting porn was important to me and I didn’t want to stop even though we’re monogamous right now. He was chill with it and sometimes is even turned on by it
I ended it when I met my fiance. It wasn’t fair on me to be talking to the men in my inbox like they were potential boyfriends; they could have been when I was single but meeting my partner changed all that.
A necessary part of making of OF that most people don’t seem to talk about is the interaction. Talking to your subscribers. It felt disrespectful to me to continue that.
My fiance knows my whole history. But I wasn’t onboard with flirting with other men anymore.
I cover it on the first date. Ideally, I want him to find out in person, because his reaction is very telling. If he’s obviously horrified, or if he’s a little too into it, it’s not going to work. Or if he asks stigmatizing questions. I also tell him that I will never, ever put any relationship before my job.
I’d rather end things quickly than get attached to someone who will eventually try to drag me down.
I don’t now but when I did once I became official and serious I told my boyfriend about it. It wasn’t a long term plan for me so if he had said he wasn’t comfortable I would have stopped but he said he was fine and understood. He didn’t ask for details but I stopped doing custom content and interacting with my subscribers. It was always just solo stuff anyway but it stopped being quite as interactive. I also dropped posting frequency from daily to 3 times a week. My subscribers took a hit but 🤷♀️After awhile it just felt too weird to keep doing anyway so I dropped it all together after 4 months of dating anyway and never looked back.
I was going to reply to some of these comments but there’s just a huge amount of hatred for men and how they need to fix their own shit and take responsibility. The kind of attitude that keeps them being shitty people.
Keep that same energy when there’s a problem in your life. The world will sure be a better place if nobody helps the people with issues.
I shoot porn professionally for a living and do OF on the side. I’ve been with my husband since before I started but even broaching the subject was very hard. I got extremely lucky and have someone who is accepting of me and the career I’ve chosen. You just have to be open minded and communicate about feelings when they come up. Communication is key in any relationship really.
Honestly men are simple and most woman would want a man that has some level of his life together and the confidence to take on the world for her and that man would not want to be with a woman that puts her body online for less then a ESPN subscription. The issue is woman in this regard think of the now (IE I’m getting this money now) the men that want a long term relationship would think of the future and they wouldn’t want to have the mother of their children showing that which is private to the world at large. OF puts woman in a box for men that have put in the effort to be seen as a potential option for woman and that is they will be wanted but they would never be wanted. meaning they will see you as what you show yourself as ( a sexual object) but never as someone they can take home to their parents. Why should someone who works so hard in life to build themselves up settle to be with someone who calls it the bare minimum when they role out of bed spread their legs and are paid enough just to eat and why would a man worth his salt be ok to settle for that?
OF isn’t my main platform, but I’ve been in the online adult industry for over a decade.
I don’t announce my line of work in online dating profiles, as I don’t want people to think that’s why I’m there, but I am honest and upfront when it comes up in conversation both there and when socializing IRL. I’ve always shown face with work, and my friends/family know what I do, so it isn’t a secret I need to protect.
Tbh, it’s been a great litmus test. How someone behaves after being told what I do for work tells me a lot about what kind of people they are.
My relationships havent impacted if/how I do my job, because I don’t date people who aren’t genuinely okay with what I do (except for one guy who wouldn’t stop bragging about my SW while we were together, then slut shaming me for it after I broke things off. We all make mistakes! 🤡).