So, my 3rd cousin (F20) is pregnant with her FOURTH child and my family is upset because I won’t “contribute”. They have been saying this since I started working. I had my first job at 15 at a grocery store. Making like $50 weekly and they felt that because I have an income that I needed to help people in the family in need.
I feel like my family supports stupidity. When I graduated highschool at 16 and just wanted a little dinner or even a card. I was being ungrateful in their opinions. I worked full time at a Wendy’s while doing school full time and apparently I was an inconvenience because all I requested was a ride to and from work. Which I made sure to work within their schedule and give gas money. Even though my house is a 10 minute drive from the job.
My cousin is having her fourth child with her boyfriend (42). She had twins at 15, then her third at 18, and now here we are with a fourth. The father of third and fourth is the (42) year old man. She met this guy while working at Dunkin’ Donuts, he was a regular there. This man already has three children from a previous relationship.
My family believes that she’s fine because she’s being taken care of by a “man” who’s a “provider”. But I think it’s weird in my opinion. My family contributes the condo she lives in, in Miami. Alongside some expenses for her and the children. They also bought her a new 2023 BMW 7 series not too long ago.
And here I am stating I will not contribute to her and the children. And apparently I’m evil and selfish for not wanting to help. This said man, has a job. But somehow he claims they’re always broke, but he’s always shopping and buying things for himself, not the children. She claims she doesn’t need a job because he’ll take care of her.
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I’m sorry about your family, OP. They’re enabling your cousin’s irresponsible, selfish, & GHETTO AF behavior!!!! If her husband is such a “provider”, then he should be financially responsible for all of his embryos, instead of begging other people for $$.
i’m sorry they sound like morons. seems like you see thru the crap tho and because of that, i know you’ll be okay. hang in there and don’t be too hard on yourself.
Do not contribute even $5.
The “man who is a provider” is mom, dad and you.
Her boyfriend is getting a free ride thanks to your family.
It’s crazy that your family thinks you should help support them!
You need to get away from these people.
First of all, your cousin is dating and having kids with a groomer and I’m afraid she won’t lead a very happy life. Second, forget about your family and do what’s best for yourself
She is your 3rd cousin! Not even a sibling. Why are your parents doing so much for her if she has Donut Daddy providing for her? You sound like you have it together. I recommend you go to college somewhere away from your family and start distancing yourself. Or else your family will always try to guilt you into taking care of them with everything you have.
….So no one else finds it weird that this man was in his 30s when he met her (presumably got her pregnant either at mid to late 14 / early 15 since she was 15 with twins)
Rather than call the cops on a predator, they want you, someone three times removed, to help contribute to her expenses…. when she lives in a condo in Miami, and they gave her a 2023 BMW?
…..Is your family color blind cause they just looked right past all the red flags
I can’t believe your parents allow you to give them gas money for driving you to school. Do they forget it’s their responsibility?? Some people shouldn’t be parents
Your cousin is with a pedo. I suggest staying tf away from them, and report that shit.
F20 fourth child with partner M42. I am logging out.
If he’s a provider, then you don’t need to contribute a damn thing. He’s no provider. He just hasn’t run off. Damn bar’s pretty low with your family, obviously enough.