Sooooo … I’ve posted a few times recently leading up to this dumb visit- or should I call it tourist vacation. They got in yesterday about 1230pm and didn’t come to see the kids or their son until 6pm. Recently my DHs Grandma died and his mom promised to bring him photos of her (he couldn’t attend the funeral). Welp… she sure as shit showed up with some F***ing jewelry from the children (james avery for my very young children, bracelets for the girls and necklaces for the boys) but left the damn photos of Macita behind (at the airbnb).
They kept giving our kids their phones to play games even though my husband told them no, when I reminded the children to put the phones down because Dad said no more screen time (they were on their tablets while they waited for them to arrive) we were met with eye rolling and huffing and puffing. Also, When they got here- they complained about the airbnb they got (husband tried to tell them where to stay) And also the length of the drive to us (hubsand told them SF was way too far for us and we would not be driving there to do tourist crap with the kids). His Mom sat her ass at the table after everyone except my husband and I made our plates and my husband told her to get her food (we grilled burgers and I made homemade fries) She said no and for us to serve ourselves. I told her that guests eat before we do in our home and to make herself a plate- eye rolling and huffing and puffing. Then they told our kids that they would come to us today. Welp… all damn day the kids were asking and finally by mid afternoon we decided to go do our thing to try and take the kids minds off of the fact that they weren’t coming. We took them to the park, went to dinner and planned to go to dinner. His parents called at 6pm and asked if it was too late to visit for an hr.
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He said, we are at dinner and we are going to take the kids to a movie after. So proud of my man!
He is absolutely beyond angry with them. I hate that they are doing this but I also am very glad that he is out of the FOG and rightfully angry for once. I am also happy that he is showing them that they messed up by not planning with us and going against everything that he suggested. We will meet them at the Zoo in San Fran tomorrow and I’m sure it will just be more annoying BS- trying to pump them full of junk and buy them absolutely too much crap only to roll their eyes when we have to step in. They will have to come see us Sunday their last day if they want to see us but they planned to go to Ripleys and a baseball game that day… so… it is yet to be determined if they make it our way. I’ll be sure to post the end results… You guys always help me get thru the trauma of their visits
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Sounds like your DH’s family is still clueless. Good on him for setting boundaries and not bending over backwards for them. Karma’s gonna be interesting tomorrow at the zoo.
Do Ripleys, it’ll be over faster. Wink wink.
Glad you and DH are a team! For both of you and your kids! I hope you manage their visit and have a great celebration as your small family unit after their departure! (no rudeness just to solidify your small family unit)