My oldest friend (we are both F 28~) who I’ve used to have contact every 6 months and tried to meet at least once a year since we live far from each other suddenly ghosted me for 1,5 years. In this time I saw them post stuff on Instagram, like their wedding for example that hurted like hell, since as you can assume, I wasn’t invited or even notified. I tried to reach to them but they would only interact with messages that didn’t involve me asking to talk or hang out. Finally I said I cannot do this anymore, since it was clear they didn’t wanna see me when I was around. They answered me saying how my political stands hurted them and told how I have made their lives unsafe by these choices.
What I had done before, was talk to them about how some financial stuff is very important to me and how the usual assumed polical parties had hurted my close ones by their policies so I couldn’t with a good conscious vote for them. I told them while crying how hard this was and how I just didn’t relate to my peers with these things what came to politics. Most people around me only care about social stuff, when I had always looked at taxes and foreign policies, one step beyond. (Btw I’m not American, I’m Nordic)
They told me they had never thought about this stuff but found it interesting. These things were discussed over 3 years ago.
So now they told me they suddenly don’t understand at all how I could not vote like they did, yet saying it’s okay, and they don’t assume I would do so. Which is contradictory, since it’s clear they didn’t understand nor be neutral about my voting.
They said they don’t think our values meet, and don’t think they can be around me. Mind you, I told them I, in my personal life am very active with the social stuff, be in projects that are these values. Also because I feel like you can only really choose one or two things what you cast your vote for, there isn’t a party that has all the bases covered.
Anyway, I just wanted to vent since I’m very shocked by this. I felt like this friend doesn’t know me or my values at all, yet they judge me with some hypothetical idea of danger, rather than my actual irl actions. I can’t wrap my head around it.
TL;DR
Childhood friend tells me they don’t understand why I would vote different than them and ghosts me rather than talk about it.
Comments
I’m finding that more and more people are in this same situation. Politics is double standard for sure.
Well, these people don’t like what you seem to stand for. You’re incompatible. There’s not a lot that you can do if you stand by whatever you voted for. You might have voted against things that they ver much wanted, so yes, they might resent you.