My mom (53) has been talking about killing her sisters and niece for about 2 weeks now. I try to tell her to calm down be she is very aggresive and slams things around the house and yells. Today was different though, she came home and I could hear her groaning around the house so I step out of my room and she starts talking about killing the same people again. This time though, she added my dad into the description. She filed for a divorce from him about a month ago but we still all live in the same house and my father is a good hard working man but she still complains about him. Late last year she was diagnosed with bi polar disorder but has chosen to not take her meds even when we tell her to and has refused to see a therapist. I have been feeling unsafe in my own home while she is with me but talk about it with my brother and dad. We are all unsure what to do, what should i do?
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Can you go stay with a friend or relative for a few days? And see if one of your aunts can place a call for a wellness check on her? You deserve to feel safe. It’s ok to lie your way out of the house, make up a big project you need to work on with a friend or something.
She probably needs a mental health referral, or a visit from the police. Ideally the mental health referral is with her consent, but it doesn’t have to be.
However I am in no way an expert here, and it’s worth stating that both mental health and the police differ so much from country to country that it depends where you are in the world.
But should you take this seriously? I think so. Talk to, or text the rest of your family. Have an awkward, admittedly difficult conversation about what to do. But I’d take this seriously.
This is above Reddit’s pay grade.
You have to take action immediately. Get your dad on the case with finding out how to compel someone to get a psychiatric hold in your area.
Phone her doctor or the psychiatrist who prescribes her meds and say you very urgently need her to have a psychiatric evaluation as she is behaving like she could be a serious danger to herself and others.
She needs a wellness check whether she likes it or not. She’s a harm to others and this needs to be on mental health professionals/police’s radar.
The sooner y’all get some help the better! I’m sorry this happens in this world.
Many states have mental health crisis lines exactly for this kind of thing. Be aware that the mental health people often show up with the police. This is because if the person really is dangerous, the mental health people don’t particularly feel like being killed. (I’ve been the mental health worker in that situation). But if you live somewhere where the police are total assholes, keep that in mind.
But once you get to the point where someone is repeatedly talking about murder of specific individuals, you need to do something about it. This includes calling 911. This is crappy and feels really horrible. It will feel much, much worse if she follows through on her threats.
Your dad if at all possible needs to move out.