Anyone have an N-parent who will accuse and attack you, trying to make you out to be some awful, immoral person? I’m so tired of feeling like I have to defend myself. I’m nice to a fault because I’ve been accused so much of being a bad person that I’ve tried to prove to everyone that I’m not. It’s made me a people pleaser and I’m tired of it. This shit sucks.
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My mom made me feel like a terrible person for eating meat. My family is vegetarian and my mom is a religious Hindu. She made so many jabs at me and a few years ago, I finally broke down and she stopped
Yeah they’d say I was a manipulator at like 13 years old :/
My mom always says I’m selfish while completely ignoring all the times I’ve paid for some of her stuff.
One time, she said I treated her worse than a dog/like shit at the bottom of a shoe, and her horde of sheep (or my siblings) agreed with her. Why? Because I didn’t want to pay her to cook breakfast for me.
Yes! It’s taken years to get my inner voice to not just parrot all of the things they’d say. “You’re being manipulative” “you’re not trustworthy” “you’ve got a sharp tongue” “you’ve always been a mean girl” etc. I’m still finding truths I fundamentally believe about myself that are so fkd. Therapy really helped me start to heal this, highly recommend if you haven’t gone before
Usually I’m the one trying to out the narcissist as a bad person ! And they are the ones trying to make me seem like I’m crazy telling me i need to go to therapy when i get passionate about what i believe
My dad told my aunt that I was “promiscuous.” I was 14. And a virgin for many years after that.
I’m not just the black sheep. I’m the tie dyed, Technicolor sheep with lights and sparklers. And if I hadn’t been so bad, she wouldn’t have had to violently abuse me. According to her, anyway.
I just live my life on my terms. I’ve had a successful career, have a large circle of friends, a beautiful daughter and an amazing husband that I’ve been married to for almost 30 years. That all makes her seethe with anger.
Stop trying to defend yourself. There is no point. Learn to love yourself. Get some therapy.
Yeah I just ignore it and cry in my room when they say stuff like that. Idk I’m pretty good at keeping my distance from my parents even though I still live with them. But when they start saying I’m a bad person, it triggers something in me, because I’ve given so much of my life trying to be the perfect daughter and it’s still never enough. Idunno hope we’ll get over it one day
I used to. I trained my parent like a dog to stop. Everytime he started to go down that path I would hang up (I had moved away so that was nice.). Took a few years and lots of distance but he watches his mouth, even in person.
For sure. But then I realized they’ve thought that since I could walk. And anyone who has beef with a baby doesn’t deserve my time. They’re going to think what they want about me, I can’t stop that. And I’m done bending over backwards trying to prove I’m not a bad person when most people already know that