Meaning if your parents were emotion neglectful, how did you come about doing the same thing to your kids. What made you repeat the same negative behavior your parents did to you thhat you did to your kids? This is not referencing to extreme cases like abuse, just any instant of negative treatment you passed on from your parents to your kids. i want to know the thought process behind repeating behaviors
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I don’t think you will get an answer from a parent doing this bc probably they don’t even know they are being emotionally neglectful. These parents usually blame the child for their behaviour, they are repeating trauma.
This doesn’t mean they aren’t responsible for their actions. They should educate themselves and stop the cycle, obviously.
Quite simply, because it’s all they know. Many of our behaviors are the result of habit and imitation. Without a more positive model, it is harder to conceive of how else to do it.
Nah, what’s the fun in that? I’ve invented all new ways to screw up as a parent! Just remember no one has ever done parenting correctly 100% of the time.
Its usually generational trauma. Its a lot easier to keep doing what’s always done than try to break out of the trauma and heal and do better