If your 17 yr old daughter,who is like the perfect child,kind,nice,straight A,responsible,never complaint about anything,who always makes her parents and her family proud,who used to bring awards for her outstanding academic performances whom you sent to another city for better schooling came home failing and need to retake the classes,how would you deal with her?
Edit- I am the student.
This was years ago,I am now diagnosed with MDD,OCPD and got assessed for ADHD too.
I struggled so much and I was in therapy last yr but I ended it and I always think so much about it,always trying to solve when things started to escalate,and I came to a point where I think that maybe it was because I was neglected emotionally when I came home failing in my studies.
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So the child in question was doing well, got sent away for a better education and started doing badly?
Edit: this was posted before your edit
It appears that there was a lot more to this.
Maybe she feels too much pressure. You deal with it by asking her what’s going on and be open & supportive. She may have stuff going on so make her feel she can be honest and open with you.
I’ll add here.
I am the student here.
Just wanted to know because my parents told me how much I embarrassed them and how much shame I bring to the family,just that.
I used to be a very thoughtful and level headed person and I wished they could get that I was already struggling with something as they saw my results which showed that something changed.
Find out what’s distracted her. Bullying, crap teacher, partying, shoot could even just be a boygirl friend distraction. Communication is key, then get her any help she needs. Good luck.
Figure out what’s wrong and work together with my child to fix what’s wrong.
It’s a sign she wasn’t prepared well enough for the new environment (academically, emotionally, otherwise) and/or the new school wasn’t a good fit for her needs. Id encourage her to talk to a therapist, if nothing else to address feelings of shame or disappointment about failing at the new school. I’d offer to show her other schools to consider. Maybe a smaller school or one with a different approach would be better.
For you:
Please continue with therapy. Get treatment for ADHD, if it’s confirmed. Medication can be life changing
Don’t be hard on yourself. It’s not your fault.
You don’t have to go back to that school if you think it’s a bad fit for your needs.