Hi all
I discoverer today that my partner (29M) viewed numerous porn videos straight after having sex with me.
He had always found finishing during sex difficult and has previously said he thinks it is porn use in the past.
Am I being silly, or, if you were this self aware then you would at least try to stop?
We are hoping to try for a baby in the next couple of years – I am 32F, but we stand no hope if he cant get his head around finishing during sex.
Also, this is a man that claims he has little sex drive, but viewed porn on Tuesday, then had sex with me on Saturday, and viewed porn thereafter.
We would typically only have sex like once a month because he shows no interest in initiating it.
I dont have an issue with porn if it isn’t causing issues, but clearly it is. How do you address this with a partner?
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As you said, he’s self-aware. The hardest part would be making him see it’s an issue…which I’ve experienced in the past. Have you recently told him how it makes you feel?
Active addiction…. please don’t bring children into this
That’s not mentally healthy for you to be dealing with. I can’t say with 100% certainty, but his actions indicate he doesn’t find you sexually attractive… That would be especially true if he has to watch other people when 1: he has access to being intimate with you & 2: it’s right after he’s been with you…