I previously posted about my in laws staying with us for a week. I’ve since had a manic episode which has been exacerbated by having them here. They have had an emergency and have had to stay in a hospital. Because of this they may be changing their flight to a later date/time.
After being in a crisis and having several calls and appointments with my psychiatrist and therapist, changing my meds, and fighting nonstop with my husband, they call us telling us this and he acts so passive and can’t tell them “we need to talk about our plans and we will get back to you” or something along those lines where some boundaries would be enforced so they don’t keep staying with us and exacerbating my mental health emergency. I feel like this is not mendable and his passivity is affecting my livelihood and health. I’m strongly considering leaving him and I don’t think this is my bipolar etc influencing me. I think it’s perfectly reasonable to not want anyone to keep staying in your place for more than a week and basically indefinitely – ESPECIALLY if your mental health is deteriorating because of this.
The people my husband seems to gravitate to and like are some of the weirdest, most unlikable, non-boundaried I have ever met, and I would never want to interact with them. I feel like both of us are unable to be ourselves and I am at least so miserable being with him, as I have to do all the emotional legwork.
We have a 4 month old, which makes this excruciatingly difficult. I just don’t see myself continuing to live like this. I am all for getting help, and most of the time my husband is on board. He just told me “we don’t need a therapist to help us figure out this current stuff” and we can just talk it out the two of us. I am so sick and tired of this, and I am so close to leaving with our son, and/or figuring out a more drastic solution.
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