Everyone always says, “I hate liars,” like honesty is some moral high ground we all live on. But let’s be real, what people actually hate is being lied to poorly. If someone lies and gets away with it, no one bats an eye. It’s only when the lie is obvious, sloppy, or insulting to your intelligence that people start to get mad.
I mean think about it, we all lie. White lies, social lies, lying by omission, we do it to smooth things over, protect feelings, or avoid unnecessary drama. And when someone pulls off a lie convincingly, most people will shrug and move on and that is if they even find out at all, I genuinely believe that they actually would prefer this. But if you lie and get caught, or do it clumsily, suddenly you’re on the chopping board.
It’s not about morality. It’s about skill. Society is more tolerant and to a degree welcoming of manipulation when it’s subtle and sophisticated. What people really hate is being played poorly.
So no, I don’t think people hate liars. They hate feeling stupid for believing one who wasn’t clever enough to keep the illusion going, in a way encouraging us to get gud at lying and I won’t expand beyond this and start talking about truth and the truth that people wanna hear.
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Haha yeah. Someone I know once said, “Don’t lie about work experience, you’ll get caught”. I said, “you’re only accounting for the people who are caught, because the ones who aren’t are still gainfully employed there with nobody the wiser. And his response was “that’s a good point” 😀
So if someone is a good liar but they harm many people, does this mean nobody hates/resent them for lying to their face?