My mom didn’t discuss periods with me at all. I ended up leaving the entire tampon applicator inside for approximately the first year of my period until I read the instructions that came with the box. The whole time I thought “these really don’t work very well.”
I was homeschooled K-12 and Mormon so I got NADA! Nothing! 😂
When I got my first period I thought I had cancer because no one told me what it was 🤣 I thought I was dying (I was like 3 months away from 14 so someone should have told me lol)
My ex-husband and I were both virgins and not allowed to watch porn so we bought a Mormon sex book and read it together our first night as a married couple. We had both seen some porn before but mostly insane shit on accident. 😂
First time I was about to cum I thought I was about to pee. I stopped. Later did it again and same sensation so I stopped. Later again I was like it feels too good to stop I’ll just wipe up the pee anD WOW! That was amazing! Wasn’t sure what shout out of me but man, it was great. Cleaned up the bathroom counter and mirror and did it again later!
Was so confused like in freshman year of high school I didn’t even know how it worked and everytime someone would talk about it I’d be so clueless.. like when people would make a circle with their thumb and pointer, and put their other pointer finger in it,, I had nooooo idea what that meant lol. In ninth grade I googled a picture of a naked woman for the first time and saw a vagina for the first time and was so upset I did that and deleted my search history and fully turned my phone off and cried lol.. eventually I caught on tho and watched porn lol, I feel like it still affects me today tho, having always been so repressed
Grew up in rural America, so sex wasn’t a topic to be discussed ever. I also never got “the talk.” I remember spending one night educating myself primarily using Urban Dictionary. I learned more in those few hours than most men learn in a lifetime.
it was confusing to figure out. i thought it was bad, that wanting connection was selfish and made me gross. i didnt understand that women can feel the same urges and desires. i remember in my youth i was alone with a girl i liked, she visited and was in my room, laying on my bed. i didnt do anything except show her a music playlist on spotify. different times i may have had the opportunity to connect, though i was always clueless with social interactions, failing to develop further. even when we both wanted the same thing, i just failed to live in the moment
When i first got my period, i thought i had gotten an infection and was too scared to tell my mum. School had told us about periods but never fully went into detail (i was 10 at the time). My mum luckily told me what it was and how to manage.
I never has a sex talk with my parents though. I learnt about sex through reading fanfiction. I got introduced to porn once but fanfiction felt a lot more realistic to me. My high school friends would tell me that sex was amazing and I’ll end up doing it every day.
I then had sex when I was 20. Boy, that was a hell of a wake up call. My bf and I did it a few times, but we ultimately believe its something to be savoured and not overused. We think its rather overrated, and would much rather spend quality time in other ways like doing activities together.
Learned all about periods from friends. It was also a friend who taught me how to use a pad. We were all 13 years old so there wasnt much knowledge but we helped each other. Learned about sex first when I turned 18. Didnt know how it worked until then. That too by reading it in a biology book. Pure scietific terms. Later searched it on internet
Ya know how sometimes you like, thrust your dick up against the corner of the shower wall, and blow a massive load all over the shower? What?! You… you don’t?! Yeah, me neither. That was a test. You passed.
I was in the system and never taught, then adopted by extremely religious parents who also never taught me anything. Of course I knew the basics because of the internet but you don’t know to even search for what you don’t know. I had no clue just how quick someone could get pregnant and my son was born a few weeks after I turned 15. Got kicked out of my private catholic school. It was a mess. Sex education is so important.
My uncle moved and left a U-Haul thing filled with his belongings in our yard. My cousin and I snooped around n found some x rated magazines. Until this, we thought ‘sex’ was a random curse word.
I first learned about it when I was 13, around the same time the internet became widely available. I’d have conversations with older men who would ask me questions — I didn’t always understand what they meant, so I’d look things up online afterward to learn more.
I remember feeling I got a weird tingle and didn’t know what it was related to. At some point I realised it happens when I see women. Didn’t come out as bi until I was 26. Also I was raped a bunch of times in the meantime because I didn’t know what’s supposed to happen in intimacy
I thought that I am the one who invented the self pleasing method that I wanted to monopolize it and when someone described to me the process and named it “masturbation” it shocked me.i was like everyone knows about this?
One thing that scared me when I was somewhat new to masturbation, was how I got my foreskin “stuck” behind the head of the penis. It was the first time it got so far back and I panicked. I didn’t think it was suppose to be able to do that. Took a while before I could get it back.
I started my period when I got out of a public pool at an apartment complex in front of everyone not having a clue what was happening and literally thought I was dying. Needless to say, it was mortifying.
I had HBO in my room, that’s where I got most of my information.
It wasn’t great to be honest. My parents didn’t shame sex but they NEVER talked about it so I didn’t know where to stand on the subject. It was very confusing.
My father gave me his old cell phone. He forgot to close the porn page and I accidentally went in to find out what that was. I was traumatized by everything I saw and thought, Do all adults really do this? That was when I was 11. All along I had thought that sex was two people getting naked, kissing and hugging. Later, between comments from kids at school, repeated visits to the same page, research on the internet and explorations with my own body, I assimilated it.
As a dude, and in my opinion, it’s nothing. I’m from Dade County for one, so as a man growing up there those types of things you just learn about on your own. That may be bad or sad to people but to me it isn’t. It’s just sex. One day in high school this girl said she wanted to fuck and I was like say less. So I went to her house and fucked. I think sex the first time is vastly different between men and women lmao.
My mom always told me sex was awful. So honestly I didn’t really have a desire. When I finally had sex I was so confused as to why she said it was so horrible.
I didn’t have decent education in how sec worked but none in the emotion of sex. For a long time sex was love for me. Took a long time to break that thought.
I was sheltered from everything out there, and only began to learn about stuff my junior year in high school. Was years behind the maturity curve and oblivious to the world. I was actually drinking (from my brother) before I knew what sex was
I didn’t understand what was happening until years later I realized all of my “friends” weren’t actually friends and just enjoyed making fun of me. Never got invited to any social events, only tolerated at the school lunch
Now I have bad social anxiety issues and struggle to interact with people, because Im still learning what actual friends are supposed to be. The past 3 years of my life have been spent going to college online so that wasn’t helped much either.
Overall I think my parents try to be good people, but they have a lot of morale beliefs that I disagree with now that Im understanding the world more.
Some people are just really bad at being parents, I think thats what they are.
When I got my first period my mom gave me a humongous pad and sat me in front of a wiki page about them. What could’ve been a good mother daughter conversation and moment just never happened, and I was only 11. She was really indifferent about it, and I was left embarrassed
I remember in 5th grade, I was the ONLY kid who was not allowed to watch the sex video from my parents – which honestly, I don’t blame my parents at all. These 5th grades were so immature and the school did nothing until 7th/8th grade to actually help learn kids how to handle these topics properly. Right after the video, people were like questioning where I was and then making crude hand signs and asking if I “knew what that was”.
I eventually did learn through health class, a bit from people talking and parents, and pornography (i fucking hate you for telling me about that shit existing, jay, i genuinely wish i never ever watched that shit). I actually broke down and cried and ran to my room and prayed that I would never watch that again. (I did, unfortunately).
I thought women also had dicks but they were just shorter, thicker. Thought women just eventually became pregnant when a couple is in a relationship for an indeterminate period of time, also assumed kissing played a role in how a child shares both parent’s DNA (this is also why I never understood why people would attribute blame towards parents who had children outside of marriage as if it was their fault and not the whimsical acts of mysterious womb magic)
My “talk” was STS- Sexually trasmitted spirits. If I had sex then all of the demons that lived within his family would be passed onto me, and that he’ll become my spiritual husband if I lay with him.
Anyway, my first boyfriend (parents didn’t know about him) taught me about sex, but he learned everything from porn and was taught abstinence only as far as birth control. I was 17, thinking that I wasn’t really having sex because sex was supposed to feel good and we hadn’t got there yet… so anyway that’s how I became a teen parent.
I had basic sex education at school, but we’d never been taught about masturbation. I’m not sure why I knew how to do it because I’d never been taught, so I guess evolutionary instincts just kicked in.
I started rubbing until the big moment arrived. Only, I had no idea it was coming. I just remember feeling a vibration go around my body and feeling like I was about to stop breathing. I remember, right in the middle of my first orgasm, thinking to myself “Oh crap, am I dying? Have I just done something that’s given me a heart attack?”
But then the feeling subsided, and I realised – even in the middle of panicking about dying – that I’d actually enjoyed that rushing sensation. However, as much as I’d enjoyed the feeling, it had still scared me. I was only a kid and I had no idea what had just happened, so I vowed never to do it again. Lol.
Went to catholic school k-12; absolutely no mention of sex beyond biology class. No sex ed or health classes, other than telling us premarital was the worst thing you could ever do during religion classes. Parents I think assumed the schools would cover it but never asked and I never felt comfortable asking about it. We never even knew condoms could prevent STDs. Just had to learn from porn and movies.
Not me, but my mom was never told what a period was, so when she got her first one she thought she was going to die.
Sex-Ed at my school consisted of deliberate disinformation and my parents had to redo all the lessons with me after school each day, just to correct the nonsense I was being fed. (Example: The school said if you get pregnant out of wedlock, the baby is much more likely to have autism than if the parents were married to each other.)
I kept screaming uncontrollably whenever I got an erection. Eventually I realized it was normal, but was a confusing period between 11-32. All jokes aside we had sue johannson to guide us in the early 90’s.
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Learned it from porn so not great
My mom didn’t discuss periods with me at all. I ended up leaving the entire tampon applicator inside for approximately the first year of my period until I read the instructions that came with the box. The whole time I thought “these really don’t work very well.”
So for me, somewhat dangerous lol
First wt dream was scary.
Porn and common sense knowledge that sex is reciprocal and not to be selfish was an okay teacher
First time I came I thought I had peed..
I was homeschooled K-12 and Mormon so I got NADA! Nothing! 😂
When I got my first period I thought I had cancer because no one told me what it was 🤣 I thought I was dying (I was like 3 months away from 14 so someone should have told me lol)
My ex-husband and I were both virgins and not allowed to watch porn so we bought a Mormon sex book and read it together our first night as a married couple. We had both seen some porn before but mostly insane shit on accident. 😂
Please teach your kids about their bodies ✌️❤️
First time I was about to cum I thought I was about to pee. I stopped. Later did it again and same sensation so I stopped. Later again I was like it feels too good to stop I’ll just wipe up the pee anD WOW! That was amazing! Wasn’t sure what shout out of me but man, it was great. Cleaned up the bathroom counter and mirror and did it again later!
Was so confused like in freshman year of high school I didn’t even know how it worked and everytime someone would talk about it I’d be so clueless.. like when people would make a circle with their thumb and pointer, and put their other pointer finger in it,, I had nooooo idea what that meant lol. In ninth grade I googled a picture of a naked woman for the first time and saw a vagina for the first time and was so upset I did that and deleted my search history and fully turned my phone off and cried lol.. eventually I caught on tho and watched porn lol, I feel like it still affects me today tho, having always been so repressed
Grew up in rural America, so sex wasn’t a topic to be discussed ever. I also never got “the talk.” I remember spending one night educating myself primarily using Urban Dictionary. I learned more in those few hours than most men learn in a lifetime.
30 now and still Learning stuff, so lol
it was confusing to figure out. i thought it was bad, that wanting connection was selfish and made me gross. i didnt understand that women can feel the same urges and desires. i remember in my youth i was alone with a girl i liked, she visited and was in my room, laying on my bed. i didnt do anything except show her a music playlist on spotify. different times i may have had the opportunity to connect, though i was always clueless with social interactions, failing to develop further. even when we both wanted the same thing, i just failed to live in the moment
For the longest time I thought when I had a boner that means I had to pee.
i learned from the internet which started off bad but now it’s an amazing resource for almost any aspect of anatomy
Honestly terrified me. Avoided sex ed talks like the plague
Never learned about it. Parents didn’t have the talk, but I put 2 and 2 together anyway because I was a bio student. Was 13.
When i first got my period, i thought i had gotten an infection and was too scared to tell my mum. School had told us about periods but never fully went into detail (i was 10 at the time). My mum luckily told me what it was and how to manage.
I never has a sex talk with my parents though. I learnt about sex through reading fanfiction. I got introduced to porn once but fanfiction felt a lot more realistic to me. My high school friends would tell me that sex was amazing and I’ll end up doing it every day.
I then had sex when I was 20. Boy, that was a hell of a wake up call. My bf and I did it a few times, but we ultimately believe its something to be savoured and not overused. We think its rather overrated, and would much rather spend quality time in other ways like doing activities together.
Learned all about periods from friends. It was also a friend who taught me how to use a pad. We were all 13 years old so there wasnt much knowledge but we helped each other. Learned about sex first when I turned 18. Didnt know how it worked until then. That too by reading it in a biology book. Pure scietific terms. Later searched it on internet
Ya know how sometimes you like, thrust your dick up against the corner of the shower wall, and blow a massive load all over the shower? What?! You… you don’t?! Yeah, me neither. That was a test. You passed.
I got abstinence only Education. Basically: Sex = STI = Death.
And I didn’t know it at the time. But I was Asexual.
So I was baffled why anyone would want to have Sex ever.
In my mind: Sex was dangerous and degrading thing that happens by complete accident if you slept next to a woman.
Like. You sleep next to a girl. And you’ll wake up HORRIFIED that you had unconsciously had sex last night without even knowing!
And now both of your lives are ruined. 🙁
So that’s why Men and Women sleep apart!
I was in the system and never taught, then adopted by extremely religious parents who also never taught me anything. Of course I knew the basics because of the internet but you don’t know to even search for what you don’t know. I had no clue just how quick someone could get pregnant and my son was born a few weeks after I turned 15. Got kicked out of my private catholic school. It was a mess. Sex education is so important.
Took a long time for me to figure out what took everybody else so long to beat Final Fantasy 7
Learned about precum the hard way
My uncle moved and left a U-Haul thing filled with his belongings in our yard. My cousin and I snooped around n found some x rated magazines. Until this, we thought ‘sex’ was a random curse word.
I didn’t even know how to put a condom on. That was pretty embarrassing
I first learned about it when I was 13, around the same time the internet became widely available. I’d have conversations with older men who would ask me questions — I didn’t always understand what they meant, so I’d look things up online afterward to learn more.
I remember feeling I got a weird tingle and didn’t know what it was related to. At some point I realised it happens when I see women. Didn’t come out as bi until I was 26. Also I was raped a bunch of times in the meantime because I didn’t know what’s supposed to happen in intimacy
I thought that I am the one who invented the self pleasing method that I wanted to monopolize it and when someone described to me the process and named it “masturbation” it shocked me.i was like everyone knows about this?
I was 12 didn’t understand sex and somebody was willing to tell me about it, problem was he was a pedophile ¯(ツ)/¯
When I first got discharge, I started hiding my underwear 😭
Lonely and confusing.
I think everybody learns about sex in their youth
Darude sandstorm
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One thing that scared me when I was somewhat new to masturbation, was how I got my foreskin “stuck” behind the head of the penis. It was the first time it got so far back and I panicked. I didn’t think it was suppose to be able to do that. Took a while before I could get it back.
I started my period when I got out of a public pool at an apartment complex in front of everyone not having a clue what was happening and literally thought I was dying. Needless to say, it was mortifying.
I had HBO in my room, that’s where I got most of my information.
It wasn’t great to be honest. My parents didn’t shame sex but they NEVER talked about it so I didn’t know where to stand on the subject. It was very confusing.
My father gave me his old cell phone. He forgot to close the porn page and I accidentally went in to find out what that was. I was traumatized by everything I saw and thought, Do all adults really do this? That was when I was 11. All along I had thought that sex was two people getting naked, kissing and hugging. Later, between comments from kids at school, repeated visits to the same page, research on the internet and explorations with my own body, I assimilated it.
As a dude, and in my opinion, it’s nothing. I’m from Dade County for one, so as a man growing up there those types of things you just learn about on your own. That may be bad or sad to people but to me it isn’t. It’s just sex. One day in high school this girl said she wanted to fuck and I was like say less. So I went to her house and fucked. I think sex the first time is vastly different between men and women lmao.
I had no idea that the penis went in and out during sex. I thought that you just put it in and it happened.
What’s it like having lower IQ than an amoeba?
My mom always told me sex was awful. So honestly I didn’t really have a desire. When I finally had sex I was so confused as to why she said it was so horrible.
I didn’t have decent education in how sec worked but none in the emotion of sex. For a long time sex was love for me. Took a long time to break that thought.
I was sheltered from everything out there, and only began to learn about stuff my junior year in high school. Was years behind the maturity curve and oblivious to the world. I was actually drinking (from my brother) before I knew what sex was
I didn’t understand what was happening until years later I realized all of my “friends” weren’t actually friends and just enjoyed making fun of me. Never got invited to any social events, only tolerated at the school lunch
Now I have bad social anxiety issues and struggle to interact with people, because Im still learning what actual friends are supposed to be. The past 3 years of my life have been spent going to college online so that wasn’t helped much either.
Overall I think my parents try to be good people, but they have a lot of morale beliefs that I disagree with now that Im understanding the world more.
Some people are just really bad at being parents, I think thats what they are.
I’m sure they wouldn’t be aware of what they aren’t aware of
Watch Carrie
I was thoroughly convinced that my dick would shrivel up and fall off if I had sex with anyone but my wife… thanks mom
When I got my first period my mom gave me a humongous pad and sat me in front of a wiki page about them. What could’ve been a good mother daughter conversation and moment just never happened, and I was only 11. She was really indifferent about it, and I was left embarrassed
I remember in 5th grade, I was the ONLY kid who was not allowed to watch the sex video from my parents – which honestly, I don’t blame my parents at all. These 5th grades were so immature and the school did nothing until 7th/8th grade to actually help learn kids how to handle these topics properly. Right after the video, people were like questioning where I was and then making crude hand signs and asking if I “knew what that was”.
I eventually did learn through health class, a bit from people talking and parents, and pornography (i fucking hate you for telling me about that shit existing, jay, i genuinely wish i never ever watched that shit). I actually broke down and cried and ran to my room and prayed that I would never watch that again. (I did, unfortunately).
so yeah…
I felt like a bird learning to fly. Someone kicked me out of the nest and I fought to survive and learn.
I thought women also had dicks but they were just shorter, thicker. Thought women just eventually became pregnant when a couple is in a relationship for an indeterminate period of time, also assumed kissing played a role in how a child shares both parent’s DNA (this is also why I never understood why people would attribute blame towards parents who had children outside of marriage as if it was their fault and not the whimsical acts of mysterious womb magic)
My “talk” was STS- Sexually trasmitted spirits. If I had sex then all of the demons that lived within his family would be passed onto me, and that he’ll become my spiritual husband if I lay with him.
Anyway, my first boyfriend (parents didn’t know about him) taught me about sex, but he learned everything from porn and was taught abstinence only as far as birth control. I was 17, thinking that I wasn’t really having sex because sex was supposed to feel good and we hadn’t got there yet… so anyway that’s how I became a teen parent.
I had basic sex education at school, but we’d never been taught about masturbation. I’m not sure why I knew how to do it because I’d never been taught, so I guess evolutionary instincts just kicked in.
I started rubbing until the big moment arrived. Only, I had no idea it was coming. I just remember feeling a vibration go around my body and feeling like I was about to stop breathing. I remember, right in the middle of my first orgasm, thinking to myself “Oh crap, am I dying? Have I just done something that’s given me a heart attack?”
But then the feeling subsided, and I realised – even in the middle of panicking about dying – that I’d actually enjoyed that rushing sensation. However, as much as I’d enjoyed the feeling, it had still scared me. I was only a kid and I had no idea what had just happened, so I vowed never to do it again. Lol.
Went to catholic school k-12; absolutely no mention of sex beyond biology class. No sex ed or health classes, other than telling us premarital was the worst thing you could ever do during religion classes. Parents I think assumed the schools would cover it but never asked and I never felt comfortable asking about it. We never even knew condoms could prevent STDs. Just had to learn from porn and movies.
40yo male grew up in the 80s and 90s with a mom that was super religious and a dad that liked to be left alone.
My mom pushed my dad to give me ‘the talk’ one day and it went like this, “Do you have any questions? Just let me know if you do.”
I got to know scrambled porn, the JCPenney catalog, and Red Shoe Diaries. The occasional porn mag.
I envy my kids and the information smorgasbord they’re growing up with.
Not me, but my mom was never told what a period was, so when she got her first one she thought she was going to die.
Sex-Ed at my school consisted of deliberate disinformation and my parents had to redo all the lessons with me after school each day, just to correct the nonsense I was being fed. (Example: The school said if you get pregnant out of wedlock, the baby is much more likely to have autism than if the parents were married to each other.)
Real weird. And it all started from staying up late while watching the Spike channel.
i never had the talk. so the first time i discovered masturbation i thought i got pregnant
I didnt know there was a hole until I was almost an adult.
I kept screaming uncontrollably whenever I got an erection. Eventually I realized it was normal, but was a confusing period between 11-32. All jokes aside we had sue johannson to guide us in the early 90’s.
Well I’m 30 and have no practical sexual education, it’s all been classroom and theoretical learning. It was bad is lonely and frustrating.