They will open up on their own. Worse kind ways are the people who try to force it. Never understood my spouse wont open up forums. Alot of times the spouse didnt create a safe space for them to want to open up. Or they keep begging and forcing the person. People usually will come around. One of the best ways is to be open yourself without expectation of them opening up. Eventually they will. You cant relally force it
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YESSS totally agree with this! đź‘Ź
Like, pressuring someone to open up just makes them shut down more. Giving space and being there when they’re ready is the only way.
You can’t force it!
like bro if I don’t open up it’s because I don’t feel comfortable around you
Not everyone needs to have huge social groups either. I’m in my 40s and have learned it is quality, not quantity that counts. I open up just fine to my close circle, I am cold and distant to everyone else. Why? Because they have not earned my kindness or respect, so I will not waste time on them. Other people have tried to get me to “open up” but all they really want is for everyone to fit their perfect narrative, it’s never about me, it’s all about them.
While I completely agree with you. I think it’s also a read the room situation. If you have someone that knows you extremely well, well enough to tell when that extra prodding will be good for you rather than bad, I say go ahead and try. Maybe I’m biased but I’m fortunate enough to have good friends that did try to get me to open up and it was greatly beneficial to me when I did.
The idea that people “will eventually come around” has kept a lot of folks in unfulfilling relationships. You’re right, we need to create space so the people around us feel comfortable sharing, but at the same time you can’t wait forever (or even close) for someone to open up.
Somewhat agree.
There ARE people who just will never open up, no matter how safe a space you make it or how open you are with them. You still can’t force it, but it’s unrealistic to expect that people will open up just because you’re open. It’s a good place to start, but some people just don’t want to share, don’t want to be heard, and don’t have anything they feel like they need to tell you, no matter what you choose to share with them. People are entitled to their privacy.
I’d also put out there that some people are obsessively open exclusively because they think that means people have to be open with them. No one owes you an explanation of their thoughts and feelings, regardless of what you might choose to share with them…
I agree but I hate when people who don’t open up expect you to. Like if you’re not comfortable with me about stuff why should I be comfortable with you? And why should I be forced to do something you won’t do either?
Shitty advice for sure.
Nothing happened like that to me.
When I keep opening up, while still getting only 1 word response all the time back.
Now I don’t bother them and don’t care about them anymore, waste of my energy and power.
I don’t think it’s always about the person they are with now but something in their past that will stop them from feeling comfortable opening up. No matter how nice an environment you make some people just won’t without encouragement.
My ex could never communicate a feeling or talk to me about anything real. It killed our relationship because she’d just let things happen and then get upset when it was too late to change things. I was very open with her, I’m a good communicator, she knew it was judgement free but she just wouldn’t talk about things with me