People think I’m unreasonable

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With all my issues with my mil my friends are unsupportive. I’m asking hubby to change the locks after mil tried to enter our house without permission

Friends are saying she was just being nice. I’m overreacting and sound insane when I say I want to change the locks

How is this insane? This is a woman who came over and let herself in and cleaned our house while we were away. She’s also come into our yard, did the lawns and didn’t tell us. Then we come back and she comes over unannounced asking if we liked her work so she could get a pat on the back

Sure it’s helping in a way. It’s also a gross violation of privacy. I’m starting to think the people in my life aren’t friends after all

Comments

  1. botinlaw Avatar

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  2. Beneficial-Weird-100 Avatar

    People with normal MILs don’t get it, they have no idea what we are dealing with, which is a desire to live our lives and make us disappear after we incubate their grandchildren so that they can be their son’s wife.

  3. Sweet_Piece8108 Avatar

    I’m not sure what it’s actually called, but my older sister and her husband used to go into my room when I was at work and “clean”. They would go through everything. And sure, the place was spotless when I got home, but it was obviously about control. Not being nice. I had no privacy when I was renting the room at age 22, and they had access to my space.

  4. ChampionshipSad1586 Avatar

    Massive oversteps! Change those locks!

  5. blu3k3tchup Avatar

    There is a difference between offering to help and essentially, trespassing on the property uninvited 😂

    It’s also telling she thinks she deserves a gold star for something she didn’t have to do nor did you ask her to.

    I find it an invasion of privacy and as someone that is autistic, I panic immediately if things have been touched, because I have my places for items, and I worry I won’t ever find it again because I’m atypical when organising my things 😂

    Her entering your home uninvited and when you’re not home, brings to mind what else she could be doing.

    What’s stopping her from snooping? Stealing? I hope she isn’t)

    What if she finds all your sex toys (if you have any) and throws them out because SHE thinks it’s wrong to use them lol

    A lot of hypotheticals but man, you’re not wrong from wanting privacy. My mum has keys to my home as a Just-in-case we lock ourselves out or she’s looking after my cat. She never oversteps with the privilege.

    It’s time your hubby steps up and enforces some boundaries. It’s not your job to communicate with his mother in this way.

    If he enjoys having a clean home and kept garden while you’re away, then hire a professional lol

  6. thejexorcist Avatar

    Nah, your friends are being weird

  7. hotmesssorry Avatar

    Is this oil decking mil? Change the damn locks!