It really depends, I am usually quiet when surrounded by boring people and one of the loudest when I am genuinely having fun. So if I have nothing to say, am bored or not interested then I just say nothing and move on.
A shared silence can be very intimate, it’s not something to be avoided with pointless yapping. If I have something worthwhile to say I’ll say it, but otherwise I have no great need to fill silence.
Because everything I say, wether it’s good, bad, kind, or controversial, it always gets used against me. So I sit in silence rather than being attacked
It’s not that we don’t have things to say—it’s just that silence feels more honest sometimes. We’re listening, observing, taking it all in. And when we do speak, we want it to actually mean something.
I genuinely am not a super verbal person. I can think of ideas when I write things down more than orally speaking. I’ve always been this way, growing up I hated it but could never change myself no matter how hard I tried.
I found my voice a few years ago so no longer that quiet, but for me it was a mixture of things …
I didn’t have anything to say
I’m worried about saying the wrong thing
But secretly it was a third thing … trauma
I was just so traumatised from an abusive childhood and an abusive relationship that I just learnt to shut up and survive instead. I have adhd so I always have something to say I was just so scared of lash back for daring to speak
I don’t like to contribute to conversations unless I have something meaningful to say. It usually leads to people thinking I’m super smart and mysterious even though I’m usually thinking about tacos or whatever.
Most people only care about what they think, not what others think. So I just listen to others talk most often. If someone wants to know my opinion I’ll answer, but that rarely happens unfortunately. Especially if they think/know I will disagree with them or offer a completely different perspective. Especially in politics/current events. Most people in my sphere are on the other side of the political spectrum so they never ask me what I think, cuz they know I’ll disagree with them. So I just listen.
I’m usually in my own head. I might just be observing or I might be deep in some thought.
Or maybe I’m just not feeling social.
I am an introvert by nature, but have learned some extroverted behavior because you have to have some extroversion to get ahead in this world. Sometimes I can launch into social interaction, and sometimes I have to mentally prepare for it.
But being extroverted is a huge drain on my emotional batteries. I’m good for short bursts, but longer periods really leave me feeling exhausted.
Everytime I’ve tried opening up and say something I got ignored or dismissed. The more it happens the more it hurts. Staying quiet is easier and acts as a protective border from getting hurt over and over again.
I remind myself that telling the idiots I work with exactly what I think of them will cost me my job. They’re not all idiots, but the ones that are make it very hard for me to remain gainfully employed.
Quiet people gather information about peoples’ beliefs and attitudes, and familiarize themselves with the subject matter, until they feel they are able to contribute something meaningful to the conversation.
Overthinking… by the time I have figured what I want to say, the manner of it, my choice of words, my tone, what I will emphasis.. the conversation has moved on to the next subject.
l’m the only introvert in a family that is very outgoing and extroverted, but, growing up, my best friend’s dad was also very quiet, stoic. Something he said really stuck with me, “Quiet folks know twice as much as folks who like to talk. I know what I know and I know what they know. “
Now I work in a company that’s full of “alphas” that all NEED to be heard, so just listening is kind of seen as a super power. I learn all kinds of interesting things from chatty folks and, because I have time to measure my words, think about my response, often what I do say can carry more weight.
Personally I think its a cultural thing. I grew up in a east asian household where you had to have a lot of respect of hierarchy and authority, which kind of made you always default to listen and watching first, and also respecting other people.
Respecting other people, and being aware of yourself relative to the environment your standing in (and the impact you can have on it), kind of always makes me quiet, which tbh I think is a good thing. Dunno if that helps, just my pov.
I used to be very quiet. It was just low self-esteem and fear of what people would think of me if I spoke. I certainly put my foot in my mouth sometimes these days, but it’s better than always sitting quietly on the sidelines.
Nothing, it’s my natural state. I talk a lot when I’m with a close friend, or with my adult daughter, but in a group I’m happy to just let the conversation wash over me, and when I’m home alone I enjoy the silence. It would never occur to me to call someone up just to chat.
I don’t feel safe interacting much with people I don’t know very very well. Also, related, I don’t like people and don’t need the validation of interaction.
C-ptsd. When i was a kid i was usually scolded or teased and accused by parents and teachers of saying inappropriate things so I just shut myself down and am basically dead inside
Slightly above average intelligent probably made me say weird shit all the time, I also suspect I’m slightly autistic
Too many people talking, I feel awkward, I’m shy, if I don’t really know anyone I’ll stay quiet too. I also like to absorb what’s going on around me. Listen to random people’s conversations, see if they seem like they’d let me interject if I can add to their conversation lol stuff like that
I find a lot of conversations to be ‘stupid’. Maybe it’s my attitude, but it feels like most things that come out of people’s mouths are useless. I like to speak when I have something to contribute and it’s less common when I’m in big groups or talking about the weather, or listening to some obvious advice. I prefer one on one conversations that either bring me closer to someone, help one of us, or we discuss an idea or event that’s of use.
I don’t like participating in stupid boring conversations. I don’t want to attention too. I get plenty attention in my private life. Unless it’s a very interesting topic or someone directly talks to me, I am very quiet
Little bit of social anxiety mixed with apathy. Unless I consider you a friend I don’t really have much I want to talk about, and small talk doesn’t interest me.
I love writing and communicating through literature, but face to face communication is eh.
I always end up being talked over. This has happened my whole life, I thought I’d be able to find my voice and speak up but unfortunately wasn’t able to. I literally feel a piece of my soul disappear after starting the same sentence for the 3rd time..
I can’t be bothered with confrontation, everybody seems so vexed about something and everything is offensive these days. As someone who was mentally and physically abused for years, now has PTSD, I stay quiet. I don’t share my opinion, i don’t back chat, I don’t stick up for myself, I don’t go against the grain so to speak and I don’t reach out for help off anybody. I got me and that’s all I need really. I think I’d like to change my mindset but I also like the peace it brings to just be quiet.
I speak with those I am most comfortable with. At work it’s a mixed bag, I keep it as surface level as they do if I talk. Most times I listen and realize these people can’t even understand me nor will they even try. People want to hear themselves talk and it surprises how stupid they sound. A lot of times people will say something and look around for approval, when I don’t say anything they get awkward. Silence is powerful!
I use to have a friend who would call to hang out but we never talked. We were both introverts and quiet people. We just watched movies or used our devices together in the same room. How I missed that friendship where no one talks over each other……we just “hung out”.
If you listen more than you speak you understand more about the situation which then leads to better communication when i choose to speak. Knowledge is power listening and learning what others have to say can never be a bad thing and if you open your mouth too soon might say something you regret.
Just takes me a while to get chatty irl and even then it’s rare. People telling me I should talk more or don’t talk enough usually makes the issue worse since I typically TRY to talk “enough” to pass for being social but I always fall short because I’m just naturally more inclined to listen I guess?
I just don’t feel the need to speak unless I have something important/relevant to contribute. I talk a lot when that’s the case, otherwise I’m silent. I don’t find silence awkward.
Because when I do say something, it’s usually without a filter. Often very blunt and to the point. I don’t want to hurts anyone’s feelings or challenege opinions that can lead to arguments, and I really enjoy people watching. So, I often choose to bite my tongue and stay quiet.
When I was younger I was a huge extrovert, you grow older and get some life experience and you realize that most people are not who they pretend to be. You get taken advantage of, betrayed and you’re heartbroken enough you learn to get real quiet and just sit back and watch..
Now I’m still extroverted but only around friends I know and trust
someone’s actions will always reveal their character
I used to say stuff that I didn’t think was an issue but others did so I stopped. I’m working my way back to being my old bubbly chatty self but it’s taking time.
Because I rarely have the energy to talk with people if we only are gonna talk about stuff I’m not interested in, like small talk, weather, what you did this weekend etc.. I want to talk deep or nothing at all. I know that’s unrealistic and it’s healthy to relax with small talk with colleagues etc but it just drains me unfortunely so I’d rather be quiet. I’m a thinker and observer and not many people really get me when I do speak out my thoughts so I’ve learned it’s the easiest thing to stay quiet.
I notice the loudest person in the room is the most idiotic. I’m not a fan of idiots, no matter how entertaining they are. But that’s how we got our current president. A bunch of easily swayed people listening to a loud moron and thinking that’s powerful.
Depending on who, I rather listen. I don’t have a whole bunch going on and I like seeing the excitement and comfort people take when I give them a genuine opportunity to say something. Granted, this has trapped me into annoying/boring rants from people – that’s when I start to watch a show/movie in my head lol
Just made that way, but you learn that if you observe and listen you can learn so much about the situation that when you do speak, people think you’re brilliant.
People who’re shouting and hollering all the time miss things. Quiet people stop, and think, and see things because they’re not focusing on making noise all the time. The amount of times I’ve seen something nobody else has noticed because they’re too busy running around and being loud is insane.
Not much to say, or it would fall on deaf ears. I learn a lot more by listening than talking I find that if I have a question it will be answered if I just wait and listen. And I don’t think other people care to connect with me either because of this mindset or because I’m quiet but I like it. Makes me feel happier to be unknown and anonymous. I was neglected as a child so it hurts me more to be seen than it does to be ignored or dismissed lol. I’m like “huh you see me” I’m legit confused when I realize people can see me
It started as a self confidence issue, but then I discovered you can learn a lot more by being quiet. I have overheard a lot of conversations I wasn’t supposed to simply by being quiet enough they forgot I was there and started talking.
I’m usually surrounded by idiots.
I don’t see a point in wasting time interacting with idiots or people who are conceited, materialistic, selfish, entitled, and racist.
As Jackie Chan said in Rush Hour – “I like to let people who like to talk talk. That way, I can see how full of shit they really are.” or whatever he said..
After multiple concussions, a tbi, a overdose/coma, years of drug abuse, I don’t feel the same in the head. Harder to maintain focus or attribute to conversations like I use to. Use to be very outgoing, and loud. Sometimes probably obnoxious. But after all that it felt like a peice is missing from me so I don’t feel comfortable when always talking to people. So I just keep my mouth shut. And also you start to notice how people act. People talk behind others backs and bad talk people, usually when they are the ones in center of attention. So if your never in center of attention you usually never get noticed to talk about. Which I like. I’ve always been a sorta nervous guy, besides the memory and confidence issues I like who I am now. I understand my social limits and stay in my lane. I dunno if that’s something can relate to or even umderstandle. Hopefully you get it.
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Because i always say something i shouldn’t and i rather stay quiet
Fear of making a mistake.
I like to observe
Not drawing attention
It really depends, I am usually quiet when surrounded by boring people and one of the loudest when I am genuinely having fun. So if I have nothing to say, am bored or not interested then I just say nothing and move on.
I usually say the wrong thing or something people don’t want to hear.
I get interrupted or talked over. I just sit in the corner and keep my mouth shut.
Shyness. Lack of confidence. Being uncomfortable if too many people are looking at me.
fear of being perceived
A shared silence can be very intimate, it’s not something to be avoided with pointless yapping. If I have something worthwhile to say I’ll say it, but otherwise I have no great need to fill silence.
Less talk, Less people interactions, More peace – thats my motivation.
Being an introvert.
>Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak and to remove all doubt
Because everything I say, wether it’s good, bad, kind, or controversial, it always gets used against me. So I sit in silence rather than being attacked
People always talk over me, so I learned to just stay quiet instead, since no one seems to care for what I have to say
I don’t know. Am just a naturally quiet person. There are times where I just go completely non verbal and I just don’t want to talk :’).
If I do a deep thought about it, it’s probably the depression, honestly.
I dont want attention.
I try to only speak when I have something worthwhile to say. Not every moment of my mind needs to be part of the public discourse.
It’s not that we don’t have things to say—it’s just that silence feels more honest sometimes. We’re listening, observing, taking it all in. And when we do speak, we want it to actually mean something.
The commoners do not deserve to hear my heavenly voice. /s
Lack of confidence, fear of messing up, fear of confrontation
It’s better to listen than to talk, sometimes.
I just am.
I am thinking that my opinions are not valid for some reasons due to childhood traumas
For me it’s a default state of being. What drives you to incessantly run your mouth?
Idk, i can’t keep my mouth shut for the life of me. Well, unless I am very tired lol
I genuinely am not a super verbal person. I can think of ideas when I write things down more than orally speaking. I’ve always been this way, growing up I hated it but could never change myself no matter how hard I tried.
I found my voice a few years ago so no longer that quiet, but for me it was a mixture of things …
But secretly it was a third thing … trauma
I was just so traumatised from an abusive childhood and an abusive relationship that I just learnt to shut up and survive instead. I have adhd so I always have something to say I was just so scared of lash back for daring to speak
Because it’s easier to observe the chaos and pretend I’m not involved. Plus, silence is golden…
I don’t like to contribute to conversations unless I have something meaningful to say. It usually leads to people thinking I’m super smart and mysterious even though I’m usually thinking about tacos or whatever.
Most people only care about what they think, not what others think. So I just listen to others talk most often. If someone wants to know my opinion I’ll answer, but that rarely happens unfortunately. Especially if they think/know I will disagree with them or offer a completely different perspective. Especially in politics/current events. Most people in my sphere are on the other side of the political spectrum so they never ask me what I think, cuz they know I’ll disagree with them. So I just listen.
When people say things people find them funny but when i say them its not funny anymore
I’m usually in my own head. I might just be observing or I might be deep in some thought.
Or maybe I’m just not feeling social.
I am an introvert by nature, but have learned some extroverted behavior because you have to have some extroversion to get ahead in this world. Sometimes I can launch into social interaction, and sometimes I have to mentally prepare for it.
But being extroverted is a huge drain on my emotional batteries. I’m good for short bursts, but longer periods really leave me feeling exhausted.
Sometimes I’m lazy to move my lips and sometimes “I prefer really not to speak, if I speak I’m in big trouble”
I don’t make a conscious decision to stay quiet, I’m just a naturally quiet person.
There is a higher chance I’m wrong
Everytime I’ve tried opening up and say something I got ignored or dismissed. The more it happens the more it hurts. Staying quiet is easier and acts as a protective border from getting hurt over and over again.
It’s better to remain quiet and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and prove it. That and I genuinely dislike people
Everytime I go to speak I get talked over so why waste my breath
No one starts a conversation to me. No one wants to know how i am. No one acknowleged my existence. No one makes the first move
I remind myself that telling the idiots I work with exactly what I think of them will cost me my job. They’re not all idiots, but the ones that are make it very hard for me to remain gainfully employed.
Someone has to listen.
It’s just not worth it. People don’t listen they don’t engage in real conversation, it’s all surface level and feels fake.
Nobody listens, someone talks over me, or I talk too much. Best to just be quiet.
People I don’t trust.
I don’t talk unless I have something to say.
Talking tires me
Drunk, inconsiderate, loud, opinionated, persons who, like dog shit, lie everywhere.
Quiet people gather information about peoples’ beliefs and attitudes, and familiarize themselves with the subject matter, until they feel they are able to contribute something meaningful to the conversation.
Not comfortable around most people. Masking traits until I determine I can be openly myself around them without judgement.
im afraid of making friends
Speaking up won’t add anything of value to the conversation, the cons of speaking up don’t outweigh the pros of keeping quiet.
I’ve always been quiet and soft spoken, but trauma and fear have silenced me further.
I just feel no one is interested in what I have to say.
I do enough talking in my own head 🙂
Overthinking… by the time I have figured what I want to say, the manner of it, my choice of words, my tone, what I will emphasis.. the conversation has moved on to the next subject.
Comfort
Mostly because my thoughts are loud enough already.
Most of the times talking feels so energy draining
Sometimes anxiety, sometimes just not interested in joining in on the conversation
Got nothing to say tbh.
What drives some to remain loud? I find that far more exhausting
I lack the need to talk about everything openly.
I find talking exhausting.
I generally lack interest, and it feels as though my face muscles feel too heavy to move.
The nasty combo of being a girl, and being autistic lol…
Told to not make a fuss, and simultaneously being terrified of other people lmao
l’m the only introvert in a family that is very outgoing and extroverted, but, growing up, my best friend’s dad was also very quiet, stoic. Something he said really stuck with me, “Quiet folks know twice as much as folks who like to talk. I know what I know and I know what they know. “
Now I work in a company that’s full of “alphas” that all NEED to be heard, so just listening is kind of seen as a super power. I learn all kinds of interesting things from chatty folks and, because I have time to measure my words, think about my response, often what I do say can carry more weight.
not much to say, really
I think David Byrne said it best in Psycho Killer.
>You start a conversation you can’t even finish it
>You’re talkin’ a lot, but you’re not sayin’ anything
>When I have nothing to say, my lips are sealed
>Say something once, why say it again?
It’s not that there’s something driving me to be quiet, it’s more so not many things drive me to speak up.
Nobody listens anyway 🤷♂️
Because it’s a super power. It’s wisdom in action. Being quiet also serves as a shield and you become less predictable.
I don’t want to say something stupid and be looked at sideways.
I’m just not wired for constant conversation. I speak only when i have something worthwhile to say
Stay cool.
People who are usually talking the whole time, what drives you to remain like that. Also, STFU. 😀
Personally I think its a cultural thing. I grew up in a east asian household where you had to have a lot of respect of hierarchy and authority, which kind of made you always default to listen and watching first, and also respecting other people.
Respecting other people, and being aware of yourself relative to the environment your standing in (and the impact you can have on it), kind of always makes me quiet, which tbh I think is a good thing. Dunno if that helps, just my pov.
I learned when I was young that even if people listen, rarely are you actually heard.
I used to be very quiet. It was just low self-esteem and fear of what people would think of me if I spoke. I certainly put my foot in my mouth sometimes these days, but it’s better than always sitting quietly on the sidelines.
Nothing, it’s my natural state. I talk a lot when I’m with a close friend, or with my adult daughter, but in a group I’m happy to just let the conversation wash over me, and when I’m home alone I enjoy the silence. It would never occur to me to call someone up just to chat.
social anxiety + i don’t have anything to say + i get ignored often + i’m boring and awkward
I don’t feel safe interacting much with people I don’t know very very well. Also, related, I don’t like people and don’t need the validation of interaction.
Hoping the person talking to me will leave me alone. 😅
anxiety
Have you talked to people before? They suck!
Most people are boring and I prefer spending time with my own thoughts over talking to them.
Because I have nothing I want to say.
You just have to keep your mouth shut and listen to what’s going on around you to be better informed of your surroundings.
C-ptsd. When i was a kid i was usually scolded or teased and accused by parents and teachers of saying inappropriate things so I just shut myself down and am basically dead inside
Slightly above average intelligent probably made me say weird shit all the time, I also suspect I’m slightly autistic
There’s enough people banging on about crap, I don’t need to add to it.
left out
Too many people talking, I feel awkward, I’m shy, if I don’t really know anyone I’ll stay quiet too. I also like to absorb what’s going on around me. Listen to random people’s conversations, see if they seem like they’d let me interject if I can add to their conversation lol stuff like that
I find a lot of conversations to be ‘stupid’. Maybe it’s my attitude, but it feels like most things that come out of people’s mouths are useless. I like to speak when I have something to contribute and it’s less common when I’m in big groups or talking about the weather, or listening to some obvious advice. I prefer one on one conversations that either bring me closer to someone, help one of us, or we discuss an idea or event that’s of use.
People seem to find me more trusting if I’m silent. Now it helps with Mt hand eye coordination
I don’t like participating in stupid boring conversations. I don’t want to attention too. I get plenty attention in my private life. Unless it’s a very interesting topic or someone directly talks to me, I am very quiet
I’m usually treated like I’m invisible anyway. Usually when I speak up for general conversations I get ignored or people don’t hear me.
Neurodivergence, probably. lol
Little bit of social anxiety mixed with apathy. Unless I consider you a friend I don’t really have much I want to talk about, and small talk doesn’t interest me.
I love writing and communicating through literature, but face to face communication is eh.
I always end up being talked over. This has happened my whole life, I thought I’d be able to find my voice and speak up but unfortunately wasn’t able to. I literally feel a piece of my soul disappear after starting the same sentence for the 3rd time..
apparently I have a deep need for a sense of control + fear of misperception
I can’t control how people interpret or perceive the thoughts I share and the things I say so I don’t speak much 😔
So, I guess my silence is out of self protection.
Like, “If I can’t guarantee safe interpretation, I won’t risk expression.”
Other times, I’m burnout and literally don’t have the energy to talk.
I also love being the observer/listener. I’m the type to “people watch”, not in a weird way though.
I can’t be bothered with confrontation, everybody seems so vexed about something and everything is offensive these days. As someone who was mentally and physically abused for years, now has PTSD, I stay quiet. I don’t share my opinion, i don’t back chat, I don’t stick up for myself, I don’t go against the grain so to speak and I don’t reach out for help off anybody. I got me and that’s all I need really. I think I’d like to change my mindset but I also like the peace it brings to just be quiet.
i have low energy, so i prefer to listen than to talk.
Nothing. When I have something to say, I am driven to speak.
I speak with those I am most comfortable with. At work it’s a mixed bag, I keep it as surface level as they do if I talk. Most times I listen and realize these people can’t even understand me nor will they even try. People want to hear themselves talk and it surprises how stupid they sound. A lot of times people will say something and look around for approval, when I don’t say anything they get awkward. Silence is powerful!
I use to have a friend who would call to hang out but we never talked. We were both introverts and quiet people. We just watched movies or used our devices together in the same room. How I missed that friendship where no one talks over each other……we just “hung out”.
If you listen more than you speak you understand more about the situation which then leads to better communication when i choose to speak. Knowledge is power listening and learning what others have to say can never be a bad thing and if you open your mouth too soon might say something you regret.
Anxiety, and the way I was raised unfortunately
Just takes me a while to get chatty irl and even then it’s rare. People telling me I should talk more or don’t talk enough usually makes the issue worse since I typically TRY to talk “enough” to pass for being social but I always fall short because I’m just naturally more inclined to listen I guess?
I like observing others to understand the vibe of the situation and I can’t do that if I’m producing noise.
I just don’t feel the need to speak unless I have something important/relevant to contribute. I talk a lot when that’s the case, otherwise I’m silent. I don’t find silence awkward.
I’m thinking. Shut up.
i like to listen to
I really prefer to observe and make judgements in my head. If you’re safe or I need to put you in your place, then , most likely I will say something.
Because when I do say something, it’s usually without a filter. Often very blunt and to the point. I don’t want to hurts anyone’s feelings or challenege opinions that can lead to arguments, and I really enjoy people watching. So, I often choose to bite my tongue and stay quiet.
Words spill out of my mouth faster than my brain could process. I hate that. So, I prefer to remain quiet.
It’s just how I am. Talking is exhausting.
I feel like no one cares about what I have to say.
When I was younger I was a huge extrovert, you grow older and get some life experience and you realize that most people are not who they pretend to be. You get taken advantage of, betrayed and you’re heartbroken enough you learn to get real quiet and just sit back and watch..
Now I’m still extroverted but only around friends I know and trust
someone’s actions will always reveal their character
Disappointment in the world
I only speak when I have something specific to say, I’m not into chitchat
I like to observe and understand who im dealing with before speaking.
Trauma.
I remind myself that if someone wanted to know something about me, they’d ask.
I simply have nothing to say, lol.
I used to say stuff that I didn’t think was an issue but others did so I stopped. I’m working my way back to being my old bubbly chatty self but it’s taking time.
Most of the time when I have said something I have to repeat myself more then once and no one listens to me. I also do not like to talk to people.
Whenever I talk, I get interrupted. So imma just be quiet
I can never think of anything to say
I generally don’t like interacting with people.
Because I rarely have the energy to talk with people if we only are gonna talk about stuff I’m not interested in, like small talk, weather, what you did this weekend etc.. I want to talk deep or nothing at all. I know that’s unrealistic and it’s healthy to relax with small talk with colleagues etc but it just drains me unfortunely so I’d rather be quiet. I’m a thinker and observer and not many people really get me when I do speak out my thoughts so I’ve learned it’s the easiest thing to stay quiet.
I notice the loudest person in the room is the most idiotic. I’m not a fan of idiots, no matter how entertaining they are. But that’s how we got our current president. A bunch of easily swayed people listening to a loud moron and thinking that’s powerful.
Depending on who, I rather listen. I don’t have a whole bunch going on and I like seeing the excitement and comfort people take when I give them a genuine opportunity to say something. Granted, this has trapped me into annoying/boring rants from people – that’s when I start to watch a show/movie in my head lol
Better to remain silent and thought a fool than to speak and remove all doubt.
In all seriousness though, I don’t like small talk and I don’t really want to talk unless I’ve got something to say.
Because I’ve learned over time that people as a generic whole aren’t interested in what I say, so I just don’t say anything anymore.
Also, existing is tiring. I don’t want to spend any more energy than I already have to. https://youtu.be/Vqbk9cDX0l0?si=8lzhMgVcSyQYoHed sums it up quite nicely.
I wanna learn to be quiet
You know that thing where you ask a guy “What are you thinking?” and they say “Nothing”
Yeah.
If I’m not talking I have nothing of note or interesting to say.
ancestral wounds where people were killed for speaking up
Sometimes it’s wiser to be silent
People who are loud, why do you do that?
You learn a LOT more listening than talking. A lot of people will say more than they should because they can’t stand silence 🙂
Just made that way, but you learn that if you observe and listen you can learn so much about the situation that when you do speak, people think you’re brilliant.
Silence is golden. I can observe I don’t always need to speak.
I either;
Say something that I shouldn’t or
I just get my opinion about something ignored or told to shut up.
If I don’t have anything nice to say, I won’t say anything at all.
I don’t have anything to say
When things you say are criticised or misconstrued either deliberately or accidentally, you tend to become quiet. And sad.
People who’re shouting and hollering all the time miss things. Quiet people stop, and think, and see things because they’re not focusing on making noise all the time. The amount of times I’ve seen something nobody else has noticed because they’re too busy running around and being loud is insane.
Not much to say, or it would fall on deaf ears. I learn a lot more by listening than talking I find that if I have a question it will be answered if I just wait and listen. And I don’t think other people care to connect with me either because of this mindset or because I’m quiet but I like it. Makes me feel happier to be unknown and anonymous. I was neglected as a child so it hurts me more to be seen than it does to be ignored or dismissed lol. I’m like “huh you see me” I’m legit confused when I realize people can see me
Because everyone else talks so goddamn much.
Take account of the room. Whats happening. Should this be said or not. Read the room… sometimes i just dont wanna engange in nonsense.
Social anxiety and introversion
People don’t really listen. I hate talking and you can actually feel the other person ignoring your words. I stopped talking as much, no one noticed.
If I don’t have anything of value to say, I’m not going to say anything
Because I don’t like any of you fucks.
It started as a self confidence issue, but then I discovered you can learn a lot more by being quiet. I have overheard a lot of conversations I wasn’t supposed to simply by being quiet enough they forgot I was there and started talking.
I’m usually surrounded by idiots.
I don’t see a point in wasting time interacting with idiots or people who are conceited, materialistic, selfish, entitled, and racist.
I’m hard of hearing and starting conversations with strangers risks unbearable awkwardness
As Jackie Chan said in Rush Hour – “I like to let people who like to talk talk. That way, I can see how full of shit they really are.” or whatever he said..
No one needs to know what I’m thinking.
After multiple concussions, a tbi, a overdose/coma, years of drug abuse, I don’t feel the same in the head. Harder to maintain focus or attribute to conversations like I use to. Use to be very outgoing, and loud. Sometimes probably obnoxious. But after all that it felt like a peice is missing from me so I don’t feel comfortable when always talking to people. So I just keep my mouth shut. And also you start to notice how people act. People talk behind others backs and bad talk people, usually when they are the ones in center of attention. So if your never in center of attention you usually never get noticed to talk about. Which I like. I’ve always been a sorta nervous guy, besides the memory and confidence issues I like who I am now. I understand my social limits and stay in my lane. I dunno if that’s something can relate to or even umderstandle. Hopefully you get it.