People who come in half-naked into the gym, bars, streets are very well aware how they look and should not feel creeped out when strangers look at them. I’m not talking about staring, that is rude in any way, but taking a glance isn’t even a voluntary action. They are in desperate need for attention and if that was socially acceptable they would walk around completely naked enjoying the eyes looking at them
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I think it’s more of a “I find myself attractive” thing. It’s almost an autosexual thing. Also for some reason I get hit on way less when dressed in more revealing outfits than when I’m dressed modestly
What’s wrong with that
I mean….don’t we all like to feel good?
And people aren’t mad at glances. They are mad at being catcalled, harassed, threatened, etc. We all glance at each other.
You know, I think you’ve got a point! Guys who are all walking around with guns are literally asking to get shot in subway!
This type of thinking is equivalent to dipping the tip of your big toe into the pool of incel ideology
A simple glance is fine. Staring for long periods of time is unacceptable. There’s a difference in noticing someone and how they are dressed and then someone ogling someone and become aroused or making the situation sexual.
What about the people that dress like that for weather’s sake? (like its too hot for them to dress comfortably modest?)
Most definitely! People have no accountability nowadays. Most people feel like they’re a victim, “didn’t ask for it” but looked the part.
Real and true. I dress somewhat odd and I get looks all the time and don’t mind them
If someone notices you looking at them, you’re probably staring longer/more obviously than you think.
Your post is about staring yet you say you’re not talking about staring. Not everything is about you. Sometimes women dress the way they do because they like it, not so people can perv out.
Sometimes I dress provocatively because I want to look and feel sexy. There is nothing wrong with that, it’s probably one of the most relatable desires on earth. Why should I or they have to be stigmatized for it?
I mean I dress nice so people look at me and think I look cool or sexy. If they look at me that’s whatever, as long as they’re not dead staring at my tits mid conversation 💀
Statements like these are so broad they ignore all nuance.
“Provocative” can be quite subjective. I’m sure people in Saudi Arabia think you dress provocatively. Would you think this description fits you?
I don’t think most people have a problem with people glancing. I also know plenty of people who couldn’t care less about what you think about their social status.
Some people do fit the bill you describe I just don’t know what percentage of people that is. There’s also a group who thinks that dressing provocatively doesn’t deserve that social status you think they deserve. Whether they can endure it or not, they don’t think it’s right.
People choose how they are going to present themselves. They need to be ready for any and all reactions (except for assault of course) to how they present themselves. When I suggest this, in no way am I condoning the behavior of those who decide to treat people with a lack of respect (rude comments, cat calls, staring, etc.).
I would say the issue isn’t the way people dress but the stigma that other people put on them.
The whole thing with women filming themselves in the gym in skimpy outfits and complaining the milisecond someone looks at their general direction is ragebait.
They do that because it makes you think “wow what an unreasonable woman!” and that will more likely make you comment on it or share it with others or post it to other platforms.
None of these women actually feel harassed. Its an advertisement. They know that rage pushes you in the algorithms of social media sites because rage is the easiest way to farm engagement.
More engagement means more people see the video which in return means more people see the instagram or tiktok name they always put in the video.
So horny simps will look it up and follow them on insta or subscribe to their onlyfans. Its literally a cheap marketing tactic and anyone who knows what ragebait is knows it. They should teach this in school cosnidering how many people keep falling for it.
In real life if a women dresses that way she knows she will get looked at. Women dont act that way irl.
Here’s the thing when you’ve lived as a bare minimally attractive woman. You will get stares and unwanted attention no matter what. I started getting such at 10. TEN years old. So by the time I was 21 I’d had a decade of trying to prevent the attention. I did it all. Being quiet, being loud, dressing like I was a career woman going to a job, dressing like a boy, covered up and revealing. None of it mattered. Absolutely none. For me it continues to this day. I wore a sleeveless sheath dress to work that covered me from collarbone to knees with a cardigan. My boss received a complaint that I was inappropriately dressed. I asked him to specifically tell me how and he couldn’t. The social status you speak of is “person is attractive? how dare they!?”
Well done Sherlock, they want attention. Just don’t stare, as in be creepy af. No one likes creeps or saying random perverted lines. However, I’ve noticed they get offended when people glance at them. Like people only glance at them and no one else. They just want to be the centre of attention as they lack confidence. I feel bad for some,.they want to feel beautiful. I knew a girl like this, didn’t care what she wore, lack of, and I realised she only wants to feel beautiful and recognised. Told her to put on a dress and I’ll meet her. We went for pizza and honestly, she felt awkward but knowing I saw her and said she’s more beautiful than I ever saw her, which was true btw, she relaxed and she really had a good time, not caring what others saw. Had a great time, bless her wherever she is now.
If you enjoy staring but think they deserve the social status they get, you are also a hypocrite.
No. So I have been CURSED with an hourglass figure & a bubble butt. I say cursed because it actually annoys me more than it helps me. People get so annoyed when I complained about my body, but literally no matter what I wear, people are looking at my ass or my figure. I see it, I feel it. In school, I wasn’t allowed to the same clothes that other girls could. When I wore leggings or skinny jeans it was inappropriate, but everyone else could. If I put on any clothes that aren’t baggy, my form is shown and people look or assume I’m trying to show it off. I can’t help it. I intentionally wear baggy clothing now and even that doesn’t fix it. I wear sweatpants and still notice men (even with their wives and kids I might add) gawking at my ass. I can’t wear anything and it be “right”. Your issue is you’re seeing someone attractive and automatically assuming that because they’re hot, they’re showing off. Some people are just trying to be cozy.
You just need to distinguish between giving someone appropriate attention versus using their desire for attention as an invitation for degradation or harassment.
is it really that difficult to just not stare? my god you people are insufferable