I did it on our wedding day. Honestly, it was a funny moment, and we both laughed about it. It definitely made for a memorable story to tell later. Our marriage is still strong, but I learned not to take too many risks with cake in the future.
At one of my cousin’s weddings, he smashed the cake so hard into her face she needed help cleaning up. They’re divorced. He cheated on her with another woman before they divorced. he’s married and seems happier. She married and divorced.
I was nice. Wife smashed it because she knew I’d get in trouble if I got her wedding dress (custom made by her mom) messy. Plus she knew she could get away with it.
My wife and I never discussed it, and neither of us even considered disrespecting the other in that way. It’s a stupid thing to do. We celebrated 22 years on Saturday.
42 years and going strong. Did it in a playful manner, which matched how we’ve lived our lives since. My best piece of advice? Know your spouse. If she does not want you to do it, especially if she goes so far as to tell you not to do it, DON’T DO IT. If you end up doing it against her wishes it sets a precedent for future decisions and trust issues as a result. Best of luck to you and your spouse no matter what choice you make.
I always wondered, why do the bride and groom smash cake into their faces? I am older and in ‘my day’, they cut a piece and each try to eat some of it.
No smashing per se but apparently too large slice used slightly lapped her mouth, if looks could kill and she never got over it thinking it was an intentional prank
I dropped my cake down her cleavage. Fished it out in front of everyone and still married after 22 years. Def had our rough spots. But love is still the rock.
I told my husband this wedding wasn’t that expensive (true). If you smash I will divorce you. I didn’t smash. He didn’t smash. We had a nice cake. Why would we want to ruin it and get cake on my makeup? on his rented tux? been married 36 years in July.
We both agreed not to and didn’t, but now wish I had.
After taking out a second mortgage to pay for the extravagant wedding she insisted on, just for her to make the day all about her and pull one of her signature cruel stunts. I was given one year of marriage before being left for another women.
My husband was horrified by the idea of the cake smash, also the garter toss. We cut and fed each other cake and it was very gentle and sweet. 10+ years later I wouldn’t have done it any other way
We both simply fed each other a bite of cake. We both have strong enough sweet teeth that the smashing routine would have been viewed by both of us as a waste of really good cake.
Coming up on 38 years.
Who wants to pay hundreds of dollars on hair & makeup just for it to be ruined- now half your makeup is gone and your photographer won’t always fix that in Photoshop.
My fiance and I agreed we wouldn’t do it. Wedding day came and we did the cake cutting and she gave me a look like she wanted to do it. I sighed and accepted my fate and she smashed it into my face and I smacked mine into hers. The pictures make it look like I bitch slapped her though, but we both just laughed and kissed again after. Been married for 15 years now and it’s still going good. Some people just need to have some fun in life.
So I’m nite even close to thinking about marriege yet, but I feel like that’d be such a funny way to start things off. I bet it’s either sign you guys are super playful together or maybe a little chaotic either way, I’m curious how it’s going for them now!
I have no idea when this “tradition” started. I’m an older millennial and the first time I even heard of this was when I was like 30 and it sounded odd to me then, and still does now.
I went to a wedding reception where she said not to do it as he was feeding her the cake so he smushed it a little bit into her lipstick and that was it. She ate the cake then she fed him his cake no smashing – they are still married. No problems. That is the only amount of smashing I can get behind. It was cute.
Wife told me that she would murder me if I smashed the cake into her face. She smashed it into my face instead. Married 22 years now – she’s a way better wife than I am a husband.
We talked about it before hand and both thought it was fun. I actually didn’t realize most people saw it as a red flag until years later because it didn’t cross my mind that anyone would do it without both people being happily in on the joke. This year is our tenth anniversary, and it’s been such a delight being married!
Great. He smashed it in my face so I did it right back. We laughed after and framed one of the photos for it. We got married at 19, and have been together for 15.5 years. But we know our personalities and have always been really playful and joking with each other.
Smashing when one person explicitly said they didn’t want it is yes a giant neon glaring red flag. But I don’t understand the general smashing hate. Let people live (consensually)! We both smashed, I smashed first, and are nauseatingly happy, coming up on 12 years with a few kids. Both of us were expecting the smash.
Made him promise not to smash it in my face, he did it anyway, you can see in the video I’m clearly saying “you mother fucker”, got divorced 8 years later.
My husband did it to me. I wasn’t expecting it and it was honestly one of my favorite parts of the wedding. I laughed so hard and then smashed the cake in his face. I don’t want to clean my dress properly because it’ll get rid of the chocolate!
I think the key is to know your bride?
Our marriage is great. Couldn’t ask for better, honestly.
Told my ex I didn’t want cake smashed in my face. He did it anyway. Relationship went downhill soon after and our divorce was finalized 3 years later. I do think of it as one of the warning sign moments.
Our photographer heavily implied we should do it, but with the cake in my hand looking at my partners face I just couldn’t do it. Especially because she said “Do not smash the cake in my face”.
So to compromise I smashed it into my own face and got raspberry sauce all over my suit.
Still married so I guess it was the right decision.
Great! We have a house with 5 pets. There are regular date nights to try new restaurants in the area. We have random snowball fights in the winter and water fights in the Summer. There is a lot of laughter. We support each other’s hobbies even if he doesn’t understand why I enjoy riding a prey animal that can easily severely injure or kill me.
We did the wedding in 2020, but we have been together since 2011 with some of that time being in a LDR.
The key is communication. I was super excited for the cake smash and he was also willing. Seriously, how often is it acceptable to mash cake on someone & get cake mashed on you. There wasn’t any malice behind it for us and we were on the same page.
He rubbed the cake all over my face, I was nice and did not retaliate. We didn’t discuss this beforehand (I’m not much of a planner). I was shocked he did it though because I’m more of the playful one and he can be quite serious. I played it up like I was upset, but really I didn’t care – my makeup was already ruined from the speeches. Best day of my life, cake all over my face included. Going on 2.5 years married, 10.5 together. I couldn’t have asked for a better partner.
Smashing the cake just seems so weirdly violent. I’ve never seen it done at a wedding I went to. I get something gentle like booping your spouse on the nose with some frosting though.
We smashed it in each other’s face. No discussion beforehand if we would or not. Been married nearly 5 years now, and we’re best friends and the marriage is awesome. Given the chance, we’ll still have fun and joke with each other.
My ex acted like he was going to, though he didn’t. He was thinking he’s funny. It wasn’t. He has done many things that he thinks is funny and are far fucking from it. Hence, yes, divorced.
I remember my step-dad doing this to my mom at their wedding. I could tell she was upset. I was 10.
He was predictably a horrible person. She stayed with him way too long but the universe took care of things by ushering him off the mortal coil via a big fat heart attack.
I told my husband, “If you smashed cake in my face, I would walk out of the reception and you’d never see me again.” He said, “Do you really think I would do that to you?” I said, “No.”
I specifically told my husband not to do it. He was cheered on by our guests to do it… so he did it. I smashed my cake on the top of his head. He apologized and so did I. Still very happily married 10 years later, and we do our best to respect each other’s boundaries. Our communication still needs some polishing but we get better at it every year. We definitely have our issues, but they’re small and most could easily be solved with more money to hire a housekeeper. So until we hit the lotto jackpot (that we don’t even play) we’ll continue to squabble.
We only had cupcakes but my wife got me with a little frosting. I tried to retaliate and mostly missed. It was my mistake by not expecting it especially since we only had cupcakes.
Still happily married. 15 years together, almost 7 married.
He not only smashed me with it but shoved it as far up my nostrils as possible. Lasted 5 years but they were absolute misery. Grateful for the challenge though and happily single now and quite possibly forever. 🥰🙂
Still married with a beautiful kid. He’s my best friend. But the only reason we did it is because when he gets anxiety, he gets the urge to throw up. He happened to get it after the speeches were done and right before doing the cake.
As we were walking over he leans to me and whispers, “can we smash it? If I put that in my mouth right now I’m gonna get sick.” I was like I gotchu. Face filled with cake it was. Everyone laughed, he was able to come back down and I got to lick the icing off my lips lol.
I asked him not too, he did it anyway. We are happily married over a decade later. He very much regrets it and cringes every time he thinks about it. We were very young and I think he thought it was some sort of tradition. I was very pissed.
My wife took a little too much Ativan for our wedding and doesn’t remember it.
She smashed the cake into my face after I repeatedly asked her not to. I got visibly mad and the room got silent. We moved on after an awkward minute.
She doesn’t know any of that. She keeps asking various people for cell phone videos of that event (our videographer was only for the ceremony) and they all find excuses not to send it to her and she’s mystified as to why.
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I did it on our wedding day. Honestly, it was a funny moment, and we both laughed about it. It definitely made for a memorable story to tell later. Our marriage is still strong, but I learned not to take too many risks with cake in the future.
It’s ok, but struggling from the 5 kids, 18 cats, 7 dogs, 81 hamsters, 27 goldfish and 3 and a half raccoons living in our 1300sq foot 2 bedroom.
It’s one thing to do the cake smash, it’s another to do the cake smash after the missus explicitly asked the bloke not to and he still did it.
It’s good. We both did it gently though.. Been 34 years.
I’ve read a few stories on Reddit where it ended the relationship.
I asked my now ex wife not to. She did.
My divorce was final in March.
At one of my cousin’s weddings, he smashed the cake so hard into her face she needed help cleaning up. They’re divorced. He cheated on her with another woman before they divorced. he’s married and seems happier. She married and divorced.
Been together 10 years now! Super happy still, I did think we were gonna split when I got PPD and PPA but we made it through.
I was nice. Wife smashed it because she knew I’d get in trouble if I got her wedding dress (custom made by her mom) messy. Plus she knew she could get away with it.
Still married over 20 years later.
I asked my husband not to. He laughed. My grandmother saw him and told him if he did, she’d figuratively kill him. He didn’t, thankfully.
It was much more a gentle boop with the frosting on my finger and I kissed it back off. It will be a year this September 21.
We said we wouldn’t do it.
My wife still tried, I was able to eat it and avoid the face smashing.
So it was then my turn. Everyone thought I would go all out. I booped her on the noise with the frosting.
My wife and I never discussed it, and neither of us even considered disrespecting the other in that way. It’s a stupid thing to do. We celebrated 22 years on Saturday.
Been married 29 years now.
42 years and going strong. Did it in a playful manner, which matched how we’ve lived our lives since. My best piece of advice? Know your spouse. If she does not want you to do it, especially if she goes so far as to tell you not to do it, DON’T DO IT. If you end up doing it against her wishes it sets a precedent for future decisions and trust issues as a result. Best of luck to you and your spouse no matter what choice you make.
We are divorced…..
Smashing a cake is the worst trend I have come to so far . I think everyone who got smashed on by their partners have ended things 🙂
It’s amazing, best decision of my life (marry not smash). She smashed first and I smashed in joyous drunken retaliation
My soon to be ex smashed the cake in my face.
I always wondered, why do the bride and groom smash cake into their faces? I am older and in ‘my day’, they cut a piece and each try to eat some of it.
No smashing per se but apparently too large slice used slightly lapped her mouth, if looks could kill and she never got over it thinking it was an intentional prank
Getting divorced as soon as I can get the fucking paperwork printed served and pay for it.
I dropped my cake down her cleavage. Fished it out in front of everyone and still married after 22 years. Def had our rough spots. But love is still the rock.
No cake smash— we ran off to get married and ate burgers afterwards and attended an amazing concert that night. Happily married over a decade now.
I told my husband this wedding wasn’t that expensive (true). If you smash I will divorce you. I didn’t smash. He didn’t smash. We had a nice cake. Why would we want to ruin it and get cake on my makeup? on his rented tux? been married 36 years in July.
We both agreed not to and didn’t, but now wish I had.
After taking out a second mortgage to pay for the extravagant wedding she insisted on, just for her to make the day all about her and pull one of her signature cruel stunts. I was given one year of marriage before being left for another women.
Oh how I wish I did.
My ex husband did.
My husband now thinks that is disrespectful.
My girlfriend and I agreed to do the cute little boop on the nose with some frosting. I don’t plan on pranking her.
I asked my ex husband not to. He did.
Where did this stupid custom come from ?
I asked him not to, he did. Divorced
Divorced
My wedding photographers said most couples that do the cake smash typically don’t work out :/
My ex husband did it even though I asked him not to.
We both did just a little smear of frosting on the nose playfully. Been married 5 years and going strong.
Idk why this was even a tradition in the first place.
“Let’s embarrass the bride on her wedding day and possibly ruin her once in a lifetime dress!”
Like… why??
My husband was horrified by the idea of the cake smash, also the garter toss. We cut and fed each other cake and it was very gentle and sweet. 10+ years later I wouldn’t have done it any other way
We both simply fed each other a bite of cake. We both have strong enough sweet teeth that the smashing routine would have been viewed by both of us as a waste of really good cake.
Coming up on 38 years.
7 years in a few months and he’s still my best friend and best partner in raising our babies ❤️
Small frosting boops on both our parts. No one wanted a cake smashing. Still together 18 years later. Love my guy to bits.
Who wants to pay hundreds of dollars on hair & makeup just for it to be ruined- now half your makeup is gone and your photographer won’t always fix that in Photoshop.
My fiance and I agreed we wouldn’t do it. Wedding day came and we did the cake cutting and she gave me a look like she wanted to do it. I sighed and accepted my fate and she smashed it into my face and I smacked mine into hers. The pictures make it look like I bitch slapped her though, but we both just laughed and kissed again after. Been married for 15 years now and it’s still going good. Some people just need to have some fun in life.
Turned my head and got cake in my ear. Married 17 years this month. But he will never stop hearing about the earring he broke…
We both got each other pretty good. It’s honestly some of my favorite pictures from that day.
Coming up on 15 years of marriage and still going strong.
40 yrs and it’s great. We talked and agreed about it b4 hand, both new it was coming
I asked him not to.
I left 15 months later. Hopefully the divorce will be finalized soon.
I booped a dot of frosting on my wife’s cheek, then licked it off. We’re approaching 13 years married.
She asked me not to, I had never even considered it and was slightly disappointed she thought I might. Still didn’t do it.
So I’m nite even close to thinking about marriege yet, but I feel like that’d be such a funny way to start things off. I bet it’s either sign you guys are super playful together or maybe a little chaotic either way, I’m curious how it’s going for them now!
I have no idea when this “tradition” started. I’m an older millennial and the first time I even heard of this was when I was like 30 and it sounded odd to me then, and still does now.
I went to a wedding reception where she said not to do it as he was feeding her the cake so he smushed it a little bit into her lipstick and that was it. She ate the cake then she fed him his cake no smashing – they are still married. No problems. That is the only amount of smashing I can get behind. It was cute.
Wife told me that she would murder me if I smashed the cake into her face. She smashed it into my face instead. Married 22 years now – she’s a way better wife than I am a husband.
I chose not to assault my wife and ruin her makeup on a very important day. Besides I paid for it it was fucking expensive.
We talked about it before hand and both thought it was fun. I actually didn’t realize most people saw it as a red flag until years later because it didn’t cross my mind that anyone would do it without both people being happily in on the joke. This year is our tenth anniversary, and it’s been such a delight being married!
Im so confused was this a trend or something? Why are people smashing cake in their spouse?
Great. He smashed it in my face so I did it right back. We laughed after and framed one of the photos for it. We got married at 19, and have been together for 15.5 years. But we know our personalities and have always been really playful and joking with each other.
My parents did it not like over the top cake everywhere but a little messy fun they were together for 40 years and still would be but my mom died
Smashing when one person explicitly said they didn’t want it is yes a giant neon glaring red flag. But I don’t understand the general smashing hate. Let people live (consensually)! We both smashed, I smashed first, and are nauseatingly happy, coming up on 12 years with a few kids. Both of us were expecting the smash.
OP you know what you’re doing with this post 🙂
Both smashers, going on close to twenty years so I would say we’re doing smashingly
Yea that was bad, I’ll see myself out.
Made him promise not to smash it in my face, he did it anyway, you can see in the video I’m clearly saying “you mother fucker”, got divorced 8 years later.
Still going strong after 23 years and I’m still shoving my cake in his face lol
Divorced
Still married. Talked about it before hand to make sure we were on the same page.
My husband did it to me. I wasn’t expecting it and it was honestly one of my favorite parts of the wedding. I laughed so hard and then smashed the cake in his face. I don’t want to clean my dress properly because it’ll get rid of the chocolate!
I think the key is to know your bride?
Our marriage is great. Couldn’t ask for better, honestly.
Told my ex I didn’t want cake smashed in my face. He did it anyway. Relationship went downhill soon after and our divorce was finalized 3 years later. I do think of it as one of the warning sign moments.
Our photographer heavily implied we should do it, but with the cake in my hand looking at my partners face I just couldn’t do it. Especially because she said “Do not smash the cake in my face”.
So to compromise I smashed it into my own face and got raspberry sauce all over my suit.
Still married so I guess it was the right decision.
We still have a great relationship, but he definitely had a broken nose, and I definitely forgot.
My bad.
My ex husband smashed the cake in my face after I had explicitly asked him not to, and he said he wouldn’t.
Great! We have a house with 5 pets. There are regular date nights to try new restaurants in the area. We have random snowball fights in the winter and water fights in the Summer. There is a lot of laughter. We support each other’s hobbies even if he doesn’t understand why I enjoy riding a prey animal that can easily severely injure or kill me.
We did the wedding in 2020, but we have been together since 2011 with some of that time being in a LDR.
The key is communication. I was super excited for the cake smash and he was also willing. Seriously, how often is it acceptable to mash cake on someone & get cake mashed on you. There wasn’t any malice behind it for us and we were on the same page.
He rubbed the cake all over my face, I was nice and did not retaliate. We didn’t discuss this beforehand (I’m not much of a planner). I was shocked he did it though because I’m more of the playful one and he can be quite serious. I played it up like I was upset, but really I didn’t care – my makeup was already ruined from the speeches. Best day of my life, cake all over my face included. Going on 2.5 years married, 10.5 together. I couldn’t have asked for a better partner.
Smashing the cake just seems so weirdly violent. I’ve never seen it done at a wedding I went to. I get something gentle like booping your spouse on the nose with some frosting though.
We smashed it in each other’s face. No discussion beforehand if we would or not. Been married nearly 5 years now, and we’re best friends and the marriage is awesome. Given the chance, we’ll still have fun and joke with each other.
My ex acted like he was going to, though he didn’t. He was thinking he’s funny. It wasn’t. He has done many things that he thinks is funny and are far fucking from it. Hence, yes, divorced.
I remember my step-dad doing this to my mom at their wedding. I could tell she was upset. I was 10.
He was predictably a horrible person. She stayed with him way too long but the universe took care of things by ushering him off the mortal coil via a big fat heart attack.
I pleaded with him not to, and he did anyway – and broke my nose doing it.
I had to wait 12 months to file for divorce; filed on our first anniversary.
(Throwaway because I know he stalks my main account.)
10 years happily going strong
I told my husband, “If you smashed cake in my face, I would walk out of the reception and you’d never see me again.” He said, “Do you really think I would do that to you?” I said, “No.”
And he didn’t! It’ll be seven months next week.
Divorced.
I asked my ex-fiance to promise he wouldn’t and he refused. One of many reasons that didn’t work out.
I specifically told my husband not to do it. He was cheered on by our guests to do it… so he did it. I smashed my cake on the top of his head. He apologized and so did I. Still very happily married 10 years later, and we do our best to respect each other’s boundaries. Our communication still needs some polishing but we get better at it every year. We definitely have our issues, but they’re small and most could easily be solved with more money to hire a housekeeper. So until we hit the lotto jackpot (that we don’t even play) we’ll continue to squabble.
Sorry to ruin all the divorced comments….
We only had cupcakes but my wife got me with a little frosting. I tried to retaliate and mostly missed. It was my mistake by not expecting it especially since we only had cupcakes.
Still happily married. 15 years together, almost 7 married.
He not only smashed me with it but shoved it as far up my nostrils as possible. Lasted 5 years but they were absolute misery. Grateful for the challenge though and happily single now and quite possibly forever. 🥰🙂
No smashing here. We celebrate 30 years in December.
Still married with a beautiful kid. He’s my best friend. But the only reason we did it is because when he gets anxiety, he gets the urge to throw up. He happened to get it after the speeches were done and right before doing the cake.
As we were walking over he leans to me and whispers, “can we smash it? If I put that in my mouth right now I’m gonna get sick.” I was like I gotchu. Face filled with cake it was. Everyone laughed, he was able to come back down and I got to lick the icing off my lips lol.
I asked him not too, he did it anyway. We are happily married over a decade later. He very much regrets it and cringes every time he thinks about it. We were very young and I think he thought it was some sort of tradition. I was very pissed.
My wife took a little too much Ativan for our wedding and doesn’t remember it.
She smashed the cake into my face after I repeatedly asked her not to. I got visibly mad and the room got silent. We moved on after an awkward minute.
She doesn’t know any of that. She keeps asking various people for cell phone videos of that event (our videographer was only for the ceremony) and they all find excuses not to send it to her and she’s mystified as to why.
Marriage is otherwise fine.