My whole life I’ve seen myself as a person with a lot of self love, I’ve always been kind to myself. In contrast, I’ve always been pretty judgemental towards other people (I’m not judgemental about looks, money or status, more like actions and such).
I’ve come to the realisation that maybe I don’t have that much self love? Maybe me judging others has been a way to not have to look at myself?
I’ve started to confront some of the sides of myself, some behaviours, and I don’t really like what I see. I don’t want to be judgemental, I don’t want to have the need to “vent” about what other people did wrong.
How can I be more accepting towards myself and others? How does anyone actually achieve real self love? I don’t want to be like this.
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We usually call it entitlement: your judgement is trustworthy and better than other people’s, and you deserve what you want.
It’s great you are realizing it! Maybe you’ll find a community that is supportive.
I’d recommend you watch great movies and books about people from other cultures and about people struggling with issues. Try to get in their skin to feel and understand how they live.