Me F(24) M(26) have been together for 2 1/2 years and sometimes it feels like we’re in a middle school relationship. He calls me up to 10 times a day. He works full time and it gets suffocating. I’ve brought this up multiple times with him, saying you don’t need to call for every little thing…but it continues to happen every. Single. Day. It’s 10:30 and I already have 3. These also aren’t just quick little phone calls these are long phone drawn out calls. Most of the time talking about whatever is on his mind. I understand he loves to talk and is very extroverted but I also have a life and have things I’m doing and it gets frustrating that he often assumes I’m doing nothing and have all the time in the world to listen to him babble about who knows what?
Tl:dr my bf calls way too much
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Stop answering the calls.
I mean… you gotta set boundaries and hold them. Have you already said you can’t have long calls while working and asked him to stop?
(Not “you don’t need to call” but “you should not call”)
I think you need to set boundaries but also it feels like you two just aren’t compatible. I couldn’t be with someone who didn’t want to call and talk to me. I guess it’s different if you have nothing to talk about, but my partner and I both work full time jobs, different schedules, and we still talk 1-3 hours a day most days. But we also are both very similar in the way we communicate. Idk it just seems like you guys are just incompatible maybe.