Photoshopping pictures of my friends/partner without their knowledge

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I know how this sounds, and I AM conflicted abt it, but I have my reasons.

My friends/partner are all incredibly beautiful people to me, inside and out. I think they could score anybody they want, and I mean it. But they often struggle to see that for themselves, I believe partially due to their families and some of our cultural beauty standards. I love to take photos while we are spending time together bc I want to capture their loveliness and our good times in the moment.

They give me permission to take their picture, but I’ve seen their disappointment in some photos and the way they will pick/point out any trivial “flaw”. They’re unable to see past these things and I hate that for them. So I’ve begun to very subtly edit the things I know will upset them before I even send them the photos. I don’t do anything extreme or unrealistic. Flyways, maybe reduce a double chin caused by angle, smoothing skin a bit where there are acne scars, anything “wonky” or out of place. Nothing more than a professional may do, and i definitely try to keep the image as close to original as possible. I’m NOT out here FaceTuning them or their bodies.

As a result, they’ve been much happier with the photos, and seeing themselves more how I see them. It’s boosted confidence and they now happily take their own photos sometimes. They know I spend time editing photos for fun, but I don’t think they know the depth of my photoshopping skills because I’ve never shown them. It seems to be a real positive thing for them, but sometimes I feel guilty. I wish they’d just love the raw images of themselves, but I can’t say I’d be happy with those of myself either. To be clear, I don’t think any of them NEED it at all. It’s just things I’ve picked up on that will make them happier. I probably won’t stop but I had to get it off my chest.

Comments

  1. xlialuv Avatar

    I don’t see anything wrong with it. One time I had a friend who photoshopped my butt, made me feel weird. But small little things like that just to increase the quality of the pic is harmless in my opinion.