My bf and I are doing long distance and this is our first year being away from each other. This summer, l’m going home but my aunt was able to pull some strings for me and get me interviews for an internship where she works, which is a pretty big and well known consulting firm (i’d be based in my hometown). I’m really excited and optimistic about this opportunity, and my bf is happy for me but he also said that I was selfish for going through with the internship if I got offered one. We don’t live close to each other back home, and it’s usually him driving about 1-2 hours to get to me. My initial thought is that we could meet
somewhere in the middle so we could hang out without him going through all the rush-hour traffic. I also told him that we’d see each other every weekend. But, he brought up that my parents, friends, and extended family would also wanna come visit me on weekends, so we wouldn’t see each other as often as he’d like and i’d initially thought. Since I’m only a freshman in college, he thinks that internships can wait until next summer. He doesn’t want me to fully abandon the internship, but since l initially indicated a timeframe of mid-May to the end of July, he wants me to shorten the internship period to the end of June instead.
Should I do this? And how would I go about this? I’d hate to embarrass my aunt who went out of her way to help me.
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Take the internship. It will drive your professional options for years to come. Your boyfriend will either support you, or he shouldn’t be your boyfriend anymore.
Take the internship. He doesn’t seem to have your future in mind, only what he wants.