I don’t have a father due to him dying off cancer about 3 years ago.. I only have my mum and siblings.. I don’t wanna hurt her feelings, because I feel like I’ve been giving everyone high hopes that I’m capable of going to top universities..
I’m 18, just finished school with a straight A’s on my final exam result, and now is the time for everyone my age to go to college.. by not going to college, I don’t mean I wanna relax watching tv all day.. I know myself, I know what I’m gonna do, I have a vision.. I have a plan, the thing is I’m scared my mum’s not gonna understand me, I just know my mum.. I don’t wanna work a 9-5, I have a goal, please advise me..
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Just be real with her, like “Mom, I know this isn’t what you pictured, but I’ve got a plan and I need you to trust me.” Show her you’re serious, not just skipping out, just taking a different road.
If you have a goal, present it to your mother. She will most probably tell you it is a bullshit like most conservative parents do.
From what I understand, it doesnt matter if you start uni now or later so you could try doing your own business and if it doesn’t go well, you still can go to uni, end up working 9-5 for a few years and try again.
Nevertheless, definitely discuss the plan with someone more experienced so that they can tell you if it has even a remote chance of success.
Ultimately….
You’re 18. And it’s your life. Follow your heart.
What is your goal?
Present it to your Mum and explain why you want to pursue that over university.
It’s basically the only way to do it without leaving her worried you’re essentially choosing to just opt out of everything…
While I understand where you’re coming from, I will say that pursuing an education right now with everything going on in the United States, would be something I would definitely do.
Do research into what you want to do. Show how your plan will result in steady, stable employment. Try and keep personal feelings/passion out of it and leave it scientific. Like ‘If I do X for X amount of years, then I will have Y. These are examples and I spoke to [Person] who did the same. Compared to university A, B, and C, the employment prospects of Y is blablablah’, you get the point.
Before your mother can say anything, maybe add in ‘Give me 2-3 years. If it doesn’t work out, I’ll do Z’. Always have a backup, and prove you are committed with your current goals. Say to your mother that with her support, you can make your plan work.
You are young, you’re likely to have many careers in your life and you can always do more study/university later.
What’s your plan and how will you fund it? Where will you live? Are you still expecting her to support you?
Do you have another adult, a relative, a teacher, to talk to? Maybe start part-time at a community college or local state school? I know there are exceptions but a degree really does give you a lot of options and it can be hard to advise you if you don’t give us more details about your plan.