Hello, Reddit. The text message draft below is pretty self-explanatory. Any advice/feedback before posting it on the group text with her and DH?
That includes “don’t do it” if you think it’s a bad idea 🙃
Here the text:
Any idea you have for an activity/visit/anything else, can from now on be communicated here – in the group text.
As their mother, I have grown the kids’ bodies, squeezed them out, and have been their primary caretaker for the past 8+ years.
There is no reason for me to not learn about a potential plan at the same time as their father and primary provider.
There is also no reason for you not to directly involve me in your desired planning of what affects our kids, other than a fear of rejection and the illusion you’ll be able to better influence him than me.
A simple what/where/when or a screenshot or picture of a flyer will do.
That way, the two of us can then consider it as a united front.
Please be aware “no thank you” is always a perfectly acceptable answer. (Will probably end on the previous sentence and leave this out.)
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