Porn has fucking wrecked the way people see relationships. Straight up. It’s shoved sex into every goddamn corner of human connection where it never fucking belonged. Now everything’s sexualized — every bond, every glance, every moment that used to be innocent is fair game for someone’s sick fantasy. And it fucking destroys me to see how normalized this shit has become. You go on Reddit or Twitter or whatever, and people are just casually dropping confessions about having sexual thoughts about their own family, their coworkers, students, teachers, neighbors, and their partner’s fucking parents — like it’s nothing. Like it’s funny or hot or some dark little quirk to share. What the actual fuck? Is nothing off-limits anymore? Is any relationship still sacred?
And what’s even more fucked up is how so many people act like it’s no big deal — like as long as they don’t “act on it,” it’s somehow okay. Fuck that. That’s such a weak-ass excuse. Just having that shit in your head already means something’s broken. It’s not just harmless fantasy — it’s a sign of rot. It shows how deep porn culture has infected people’s minds. They’ve been so desensitized that they genuinely believe they can sexualize anyone around them and it’s totally fine, as long as they keep it to themselves. That’s delusional. That’s dangerous. That’s fucking disgusting.
And let’s be real — this isn’t just about what someone jerks off to. It’s about how they see people. They stop seeing human beings and start seeing body parts. Roles. Fucking categories. Their whole view of relationships gets warped until every person they know becomes just another character in their porn-soaked imagination. That’s not normal. That’s not “kinky” or “dark” or “just fantasy.” That’s some mentally twisted shit. And it’s everywhere. It’s eating away at people’s ability to love, to connect, to respect others like actual fucking humans. People are so deep in this shit they don’t even notice how far gone they are.
And no one’s calling it out. No one fucking talks about it because everyone’s either too scared to offend someone or they’re just as far gone. So the sickness keeps spreading. It becomes the default. It gets passed down. Kids grow up in this hypersexualized, boundaryless hellhole and think it’s normal to be turned on by a fucking stepmom or a cousin or a classmate. That’s not edgy, that’s not taboo — that’s fucked up. It’s cultural rot on a soul-deep level.
And honestly, it makes me wonder how many people have had to deal with that gut-wrenching feeling — when someone close, someone who should’ve been safe, looks at them in that wrong fucking way. Not a stranger. Not some random creep. But someone they knew. Someone who should never have had those kinds of thoughts. That shit fucks with your head. It stays with people. And it’s exactly the kind of quiet, hidden damage this porn-soaked culture creates — damage no one wants to admit is real because it’s uncomfortable or inconvenient or makes them look in the mirror.
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i have nothing to add, but you are totally right. Some are going to disagree with you, but you explained it perfectly. Even I become so desensitized to it until it’s actually written in text of how insane it is. This is an example of it and it has me thinking. Like alot.
I absolutely agree
Agreed, it creates a dopmaine rush that can only be fulfilled by looking at multiple women while relationships require you to stick to one woman. So when u get with a woman, u wonder why she’s unable to give you the same feeling of excitement and might blame it on her not being fulfilling while the real problem is how your brain functions. Porn genuinely rewires your brain into a form different from the original so that you get addicted and are almost always unable to quit Hence, when u get into a relationship you cant just suddenly quit porn. You can’t think that you’ll watch porn and when you decide to get loyal to one woman, you’ll be able to give up. It smth way deeper, and many people underestimate it.
And ofc this works both ways, im not just subjecting men to this standard.
I hate that dopamine rush that porn gives me, I have to replace it with something useful and keep it that way
this right here ladies and gents i agree
i’m sick of people shoving sex down our throats, especially in relationships
like, hello, we got other shit going on in our lives like college, work, family, etc. hell, even others are terrified by it due to trauma revolving around sexual abuse/assault or rape. stuff non consensual, yet they still do it anyway. talk about disrespecting boundaries.
we’re on the same page pal. 🫡
👏👏 👏 I 100% agree with everything you’ve said. I’ve spent the last few years trying to educate people on this and to spread awareness of it. Thank you 🙏.
Finally someone said it. The excuses I always get when confronting people are “it’s normal” or “it’s just human nature”.
agreed. fight the new drug. it’s deteriorating society.
Agree 100%. My parents showed me porn when I was very young and it messed up all of my relationships well into adulthood.
For real. It’s been 11 years since I was in a relationship (let alone a serious one), and I was heavily addicted to porn and I noticed it was affecting my relationship with my ex. I became detached, distanced, and was losing the ability to connect with her on an intimate level. I was shallow too and was unsatisfied with how my ex looked unable to match up to the quality of these porn actresses.
Preach it 🙌
I’d say sexually interested in a classmate isn’t really kinky or dark. I don’t think that should be condemned in the same sentence as cousin fucking and stepparent shit.
But yeah I agree w everything else. You can’t do the simplest shit without getting sexualized. Or you have to think “If I do this, could it be seen sexually?”
Well said.
I would agree, though I apparently have been thankful not to see a lot of what you are talking about in terms of relationships, I agree with everything you said and I’m sure it’s just because I don’t browse a whole lot of random reddit. It isn’t just porn though, it’s hypersexualizing every single thing. Nothing is safe… a family member was still in elementary school when she and some friends were on some supposed game app on their phone, and starting searching the internet about that kind of stuff, and not just the general kids want to understand once they hear about it in 5th grade, but actual traumatizing way out there stuff… or at least that’s what I was told. Who knows how accurate that is but I’m sure she had to have been googling something. Part of it goes back to the internet in general and how people act online and how they think things they say and do online is okay even though they wouldn’t do it in daily life. Part of it is media. But like you said, porn has messed everything up. I don’t know how society would even go about fixing it which is heartbreaking…
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Thank you. Your post is 100% correct, and also missing a ton of other ways it’s fucking up society.
I’m a woman, and I’ve had initial sexual encounters with men who wrapped their hands around my neck without so much of a quick “Is this okay?”
If he asks, and that’s his kink, whatever, at least he asked. But for the dudes who didn’t even ask first… I don’t know how to explain to you that just because this shit is normal in porn, does not mean it’s actually normal. Like, I thought you were romantically attracted to me? Why the fuck do you want to choke me???
Also, most men know “foreplay is important”, but I’ve also had sexual partners whose sense of how long foreplay should last (rule of thumb: longer than 60 seconds) is so skewed.
I’ve read articles quoting teenaged girls who are afraid to lose their virginity because they feel like they’ll be expected to be into choking, slapping, etc. by their partners. What the absolute fuck.
I just got out of a (rather short) relationship with a man who showed the classic signs of an unhealthy relationship with porn. Our sex was decent early on despite this, but as our relationship progressed, I noticed that for him, sex was just about the orgasm. Even when he initiated. No losing yourself in the act, no enjoying each other’s bodies, no basking in the vulnerability of it all. Just pump and cum. ASAP.
It’s called making love for a reason.
To any dude who reads this and uses porn with any regularity: you might not feel like you have an addiction, but porn is 100% fucking up your perception of what sex is supposed to be like. Just because you’re not addicted doesn’t mean your understanding of sex hasn’t been negatively altered.
I agree but I dont think porn shaped people more like people shaped porn ive searched up pronhub once in my life it was so fucking disgusting
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People love to have sex its in our nature, they cant because social norms. Cheating and porn and all the negative stuff follows that. If only we could sate that hunger
Yeah, fuck this reality, I crave real connection and warmth, but it’s hard to find the one cause a lot of people have past trauma because some other people used them to satisfy their desires and avoided connection with them.
i totally agree with you, and it’s so ass cause in a relationship the first thing that’s expected from you is sex and… no? we’ve been together two weeks and you’ve wanted to do it like 5 times a week
where’d the romance go? the making the other feel special?
i’m not saying you can’t make someone feel special through sex, cause you can, but there’s a difference between just mindless sex cause it seems it’s all you can think of, and actually loving and caring for that person
Probably one of the biggest elephants in the room in society these days. Porn destroys so much, yet it’s so accepted and normalised we don’t even acknowledge the negative effects.
Im so glad I saw this cause it’s exactly how I feel but it’s not just porn imo
No, it’s not porn. People need to stop blaming porn for their shitty behavior. They learned their piss poor relationship values from their parent(s)! It starts and ends right there.
Totally agree that porn is not good and rewires brains and is associated with trafficking, etc, etc. etc.
But after 25 years of a relationship with someone who doesn’t need or want or even seem to like sex, I now have a real deep sense that real people just don’t have sex (I know this is a fallacy, but it is my lived experience). And I live and work in circles where sex may be joked about, but it really is a taboo topic as far as sex being a regular activity among people.
At least when I see porn, I can think to myself that there are at least a few people out there that at least pretend to enjoy and have sex, even if it’s just a job for them.
What I hate more is that when people watch it, it makes you start seeing men and women more as objects and stuff you’d Normally do out of platonic affection feel even weirder because that thought is there. It’s sad really
I definitely agree. I highly wish I hadn’t been introduced to porn at all. It shapes how I view the opposite sex. Like there’s a fine line between finding someone attractive and then thinking thoughts you shouldn’t towards them. I have a guy teaching my class and he’s cute but I’ve never thought of him like that. Someone he’s obviously in a relationship with clearly took me cheesing too hard as fine time to leave a love mark visibly on his neck for anyone even thinking about checking him out. He’s taken. I got that the first time seeing their interactions with each other. Idk why I was so bummed that the possibility of this guy not being in a relationship just blown into smithereens bothered me a bit. I’m totally over it but why do our minds automatically think someone is smashable if they’re mildly attractive without meaning to? That can’t be normal….is it?
Bro used chat gpt, next time prompt it to cool it down with all the dashes
My bet is no matter what men think, the way their brain is designed, porn will inevitably rot it. They’re just not as immune to it or as disciplined as they think. This is the part of their brain that’s most animal/dumb.
Like it’s getting to the point where you can’t even have a genuine conversation without being judge about sizes and thing like it’s ok to have preferences but I mean this bad I’d rather them bring back playboy magazine then all this it’s fucking up the culture and future generations Like think when you have kids and they ask what you did for a living .
I would agree. I am 45 and so I have been around since before the internet blew up. I could definitively say that porn has fucked up the way some people see relationships and sex. I have dated a man who was older than me and a few that were younger than me. The youngest one is for sure warped by porn. His preferences and ideas of how intimacy are supposed to go are all pornographic, no sensual type of stuff. The older one was also warped by porn but not to the same extent as the younger one since he grew up in VCR and DVD era.
Yeah and with the rise of OF it’s only going to get worse. 😢😢😭😭😭
This post here turns me on
So right, stop substituting therapy with sex
True.
Though I am a lost case, I request everyone who are still holding up to get out of this hell hole.
I needed this read ty bc man I personally have stopped thinking like this recently since talking to this girl n while this whole concept has been in my head for a while talking about sex with her has really made me want to stop watching porn for all these reasons I don’t want to just have sex I want to be intimate n make love not just fuck 🫡
and people are going to justify this with how it’s ’biology’ and they ‘can’t help what they’re attracted to’, which is like yeah but damn do you need to be horny all the time ???
Heavy on the last paragraph. My dad has had a porn addiction all my life, and of course eventually preyed on me.
Wrong. I’ve been watching porn for decades and still see people, sex workers included, as human beings worthy of respect. There are plenty of us who can distinguish fiction from reality. The real issue is a culture that generally rewards toxic behavior, not just porn itself. Save the moral panic for something that actually warrants it.
I think we have reached a point where the consequences of banning/limiting porn completely would far outweigh the consequences of keeping things the way they are now. But I do think there’s a lot more we can do in regard to making sure children don’t have access to that stuff. Watching porn in the early stages of your brain development will severely screw up your view on sex and intimacy, and I say this as someone who had way too much freedom on the internet as a kid. They make those corners way too accessible to children and I honestly think they do it on purpose. First time I ever came across porn I was 9 and not actively looking for it, it was an ad on a gaming website for kids. Just completely sick.