Update: I asked her to show me a positive pregnancy test. This was met with a lot of name calling, yelling and saying she didn’t want anything to do with me. I told her if she is pregnant I want to have a relationship with my child, and that if she won’t show me a positive test I will get a court ordered paternity test. Then she blocked me on social media and deleted the one way we were able to communicate. I don’t think she is actually pregnant. What do you think?
I was with a woman on March 4th, used protection and when we were finished the condom was broken down by the base. She took a plan B. One week later she told me her period was 3 days late and she took a pregnancy test and it was positive. I know that it’s possible to be a late ovulation and still get pregnant. But how likely is it that her positive test was so soon. She never showed me the positive test and only told me this after I said I did not want to sleep with her again. Do you think she’s really pregnant? And if she is, is it mine?
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I don’t think she’s pregnant either. That’s a pretty unhinged response from her over a reasonable request from you.
You sound like you want to do the right thing by your as of now potential child, so if she turns up to your place obviously pregnant in the near-ish future, just insist on a paternity test before you offer any financial support or sign a birth certificate.
I don’t think she was pregnant. When you asked to see the test, she instantly flipped out. Any sane woman would have shown you the test.
If she shows up in the future, tell her that when the baby is born, you will be in their life after you get a DNA test. Once she gives birth, I’d get a lawyer.
Honestly, it sounds like you need to back away from the situation. The fact she even did all that the moment you withdraw shows she was likely trying to trap you.
March 4th? Yeah, no. If she is pregnant, I predict a “premie” who is somehow a healthy and hale 8 or 9 lbs
Paternity test for the win
Oh I doubt she’s pregnant. She should show you the test if she is
Just by her over the top response to a simple question just shows she’s lying, I would 100% screenshot the conversation especially where you asked for proof and she flipped out, just be aware she could spin the story to where she’s the victim.
Stay strong in the fact you want proof, everyone is entitled to having it especially if she’s claiming it’s yours. Otherwise just be happy you dodged a bullet
(from what it sounds like)
Seems suspicious to me. I did get pregnant from a broken condom/one time thing and would have had zero problem showing the positive preg test to the father. Like why be mad about it unless something fishy is going on?
Try and let it be for now. Worst case she shows up in 9 months with a baby to paternity test. You’ll probably never hear from her again, though.
You need to be careful here. Fyi positive pregnancy tests can be purchased online.