It’s been a whiiiile since I had any sex. I met a guy and he is very, very, very attractive in my opinion. Issue is – I feel less attractive than him lol. He is very into his looks, fitness, fashion & skincare. He doesn’t seem arrogant about it though. I don’t know if I go through with a casual hook up if I’ll be able to get out of my head long enough to enjoy myself. Should I just stop talking to him?
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noooo don’t stop talking to him! Enjoy yourself and enjoy his beauty <3
Keep talking until you feel comfortable or he loses interest. You don’t have to end things just as you don’t have to sleep with him.
Don’t decide for him whether he should like you. Enjoy yourself and see what happens.
I think you need to know yourself. If you feel like you’re not at a point where you’ll be able to let go and just be present and enjoy the experience, then don’t do it. I feel like if you go into sex with insecurity and fear it’s going to set a bad tone and you’ll leave feeling judged and exposed- even though you know this fear is all in your head.
You can’t fake confidence and you can’t fake feeling sexy. So if you feel like this guy is going to trigger some insecurities that will prevent you from letting loose and enjoying the experience, while it’s a nice sentiment to assert “be confident and go for it!”, it’s easier said than done.
My vote is to not have sex with someone when you don’t feel comfortable. For whatever reason it may be.
However it might be nice to go on a date and spend some actual time with him to assess the vibe, and if you can feel more comfortable in his presence then maybe your fear about sex with him will diminish.
He’s probably thinking the exact same thing. Aren’t humans complicated eh?
Do you think average men who hook up with beautiful women don’t enjoy it bc they’re thinking about their looks? Hell no. They think “wow I get to touch this beautiful woman!!”
You are probably hotter than you think you are, for all kinds of reasons. Take this man’s attractiveness as a sign that you, too, are attractive and go for it!!
If you’re ok with it being a hookup and nothing more, then fine. But be warned – on reddit you’ll see people, mostly men, but some women too, mention how attractive men will sleep with less attractive women for hookups because sex.
Oh my gosh go have sex with this man please.* You’re overthinking it!
*only if you really want tho
If he’s telling you he’s into you and acting like he’s into you, believe him. Don’t self sabotage here. Don’t decide for him how he feels about you.
A lot of guys don’t care about looks when it comes to just casual hookups. So I wouldn’t worry about that. Most men find the majority of women attractive enough to sleep with, but their criteria is totally different for relationships. If a hookup is all you want I’d say go for it, but I would proceed with caution if you’re wanting more or think you might catch feelings.
Source: I’m a plain looking woman who has been propositioned by guys out of my league (including some much younger), although I have no interest in casual sex.
I feel like there are a few things here:
Life is for living. Do what makes you happy.
If you’re attracted to him then go for it. Regret what you haven’t done, not what you have.
Attractive men are trouble, it’s widely known. 😸 Youre gonna be cruisin for a bruisin
Sorry but if it’s for a hookup, don’t we like, want him to be super hot? Isn’t that sort of the whole point?
Get out of your own head! If he’s indicating he’s into you, go for it. Enjoy him!!!