I’m going to the dentist soon and a couple days ago I realized one of my teeth started hurting. Not crazy, just an annoying pulse thing. I chew on stuff a lot (yeah bad habit.), so i assumed I cracked it at some point and didn’t notice till now.
My mom hates when I bring up anything wrong, because she doesn’t want to have to make more appointments and will probably yell at me for “causing more issues”.
From what I’ve read it’s kinda hard to tell if a tooth is cracked from xray, so I’d have to tell my dentist that there’s something wrong with my tooth.
In earshot of my mom.
Any ideas on how to do this discretely, so maybe my mom will just assume it’s something the dentist noticed, and not me?
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Just say you’ve got a problem / pain here can you take a look ? Slip them a note maybe ? 🤷♂️
How old are you ?
What the fuck is wrong with your mother geez?
The dentist will be poking around your mouth, right? So then just go really loudly “OOOOWIIEEEEE” and when they ask what’s wrong, point to the tooth that’s hurting.
Just casually mention to your dentist that you’ve been feeling a bit of discomfort when chewing. They’ll do the detective work, no extra appointments necessary!
write it down and hand him/her a note saying that you’re scared of how your mom will react so need to be discrete.
How old are you? Why is your mother sitting in on your dentist appointments?
Your mother is fucking crazy.
How old are you that your mom still into the dentist with you?
You can call the dentist ahead of your appointment and explain that you’d rather not have your mom in the exam room with you when you talk to the dentist, and ask them to tell her to wait in the waiting room. Tell them it’s delicate. They will assume you want to talk about some sexual health/oral STD thing, but that’s fine. They will be nice and understanding.
Just ‘accidentally’ drop your dentist a note when handing over your health card. They’ll get the hint.
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Pretend to yawn, catch the dentist’s eye, and point at the problematic tooth. She’ll understand and your mom will be none the wiser!
Do you grind your teeth while you sleep? Do you wake up with a stiff or sore jaw? I haven’t heard of cracking a tooth because of chewing on things, but I’ve cracked several molars (and some subsequent crowns) due to teeth grinding/clenching. Cracking a tooth was actually how we discovered I ground/clenched my teeth in my sleep when I was 17.
Tbh if you’re worried about talking to the dentist about a painful tooth due to your moms reaction, I wouldn’t be surprised if you ground/clenched your teeth in your sleep.
Dentists are trained professionals, they’ll understand if you write a note explaining your problem and hand it to them discretely. It’s about your health, not your mom’s convenience.
Ask your dentist “can I speak to you alone?”
Would it be possible to ask your mom to go to the appointment by yourself and frame it as being more convenient that she doesn’t need to come with you? Can you pretend to go use the bathroom and then find someone to quickly tell about the problem, and ask them to be discreet but communicate to the dentist to take a look at it? If you know the phone number for the dentist, can you call them up and speak to the receptionist and explain what you’ve said here? Those would be my ideas, leaving a note like other people said is also not a bad idea.
Just tell her. I thought I cracked a tooth awhile back and just told them at my cleaning. They did an x-ray and didn’t see a crack. Turns out that I’d “bruised” it? After months of making sure I didn’t chew on that side, it stopped aching. So, there’s a chance you didn’t crack it but you won’t know until you talk to a dentist, I guess. Or it gets infected.
Just mention it at your next cleaning.
Call dentists office ahead of time, ask the nurse to put a note in your chart for the dentist that mother is denying care ands to please discreetly check said tooth for issues
I can’t believe this should even be necessary, but if you call their office and explain the situation, you can bet it will end up in your chart before the appointment.
Does she actually come back in the room with you? At age 17? This is just SO WRONG.
Can you call them while you’re out of the house and have them note this on your chart? (About the tooth AND mom.)