I’m in my early 30s, have a corporate job, a partner, and a dog. What once seemed like a simple life now feels so complex and overwhelming.
I don’t feel secure in my job, and I feel like I’m constantly having to over-deliver, which impacts my home life. Then on weekends, all I want to do is rest and recharge.
I’m curious to know – how are you all managing overwhelm in your lives? Tell me your secrets, please!
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I have these things too. I never fully recovered from my long covid so I have to manage my energy levels carefully. It was fine til I got a partner who complains if I work late and wants to go do activities every weekend.
I literally started making up friends and hobbies so that I could stay home some weekends and just do fucking nothing. Is this ideal, mature communication? No ma’am it is not but I don’t have the mental bandwidth to advocate for my needs to a man who isn’t yet getting it.
I quit my job, took a large salary cut and got a lower responsibility job. Thankfully, our shared finances allowed.
I am a corporate woman, with a husband a dog and a 4yo.
My husband and I are really partners, I work long hours so he does more things around the house.
But we rely on habits and doing things without motivation.
I don’t like mess, so we avoid clutter and everyday after putting my daughter to bed, we put things in place and do the dishes. Everyday when we wake up we make our bed. I meal prep for the week, on a way that we have our work lunches ready, and that dinner can be made in half an hour.
I usually shop online, this saves a lot of time.
I use my strengths, and hire help every time I can. It can be for things around the house, my car, things like this. I don’t enjoy manual work, so if I need something around the house I will buy it ready or hire someone, I do enjoy cooking so I cook everything from scratch, but if I didn’t, I would probably hire someone to meal prep or some kind of service.
My forte is working, and I am good a budgeting, so I learned how to work and rest so I can make use of what I do best.
In my free time I need to rest, take care of my health, spend quality time with my family, so I work so I can afford to do that.
I also learned to not feel guilty for resting and just enjoying things without being productive on my free time
I go off the grid once in awhile: even for just a night. I do a solo camp at a safe campsite with no phone service and just hike, read, and sip on some whiskey. Always feel recharged after. Rinse and repeat.
Journaling n writing down all I have to do atleast once a month helps me stay on track
following…! i wfh so i usually just take ten mins to sob in my bed.
I would adjust to make myself feel more secure in my job. Maybe you can get a new one where your delivery is matched with salary and you don’t feel concerned?
I recently left a fairly secure job to take a big career risk at a start-up, so I get the lack of security. It feels really stupid that I made this choice. But I don’t feel like I have to over-deliver, and my team is good with encouraging work-life balance, so it doesn’t feel sickeningly stressful.