So I broke up with my ex and a week later my guy friend starts hitting on me on a night out. I’m taken aback by this shift in behaviour and wonder if it’s just trying to hook up or if he genuinely likes me. He knows i’m upset after my breakup.
I decide to see how things play out and he starts talking to me a lot more which is nice. I start trying to make it more obvious I like him too but it’s too soon for me to get into a new relationship especially as my last one was bad.
He’s quite inconsistent with communicating and i’m unsure if it’s because he’s unsure of me or it just the way he is. I’m talking ignoring me for a days and then coming back in giving me a load of attention.
Then this mutual friend that’s been dropping hints to me about him for years casually tells me he’s been seeing other women. So I back off and he allows it to fizzle out. Anyway i’m quite hurt by his lack of transparency in everything.
Then this mutual friend asks me if i’d organise a holiday away for us. I say yes but then the next day in the groupchat she asks this guy if she wants to bring his new girlfriend?
Am I overreacting for a.) thinking it’s weird my friend would put me in this awkward position and b.) making my excuses and getting out of this holiday – which would be couples and me 5th wheeling!?
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Backup of the post’s body: So I broke up with my ex and a week later my guy friend starts hitting on me on a night out. I’m taken aback by this shift in behaviour and wonder if it’s just trying to hook up or if he genuinely likes me. He knows i’m upset after my breakup.
I decide to see how things play out and he starts talking to me a lot more which is nice. I start trying to make it more obvious I like him too but it’s too soon for me to get into a new relationship especially as my last one was bad.
He’s quite inconsistent with communicating and i’m unsure if it’s because he’s unsure of me or it just the way he is. I’m talking ignoring me for a days and then coming back in giving me a load of attention.
Then this mutual friend that’s been dropping hints to me about him for years casually tells me he’s been seeing other women. So I back off and he allows it to fizzle out. Anyway i’m quite hurt by his lack of transparency in everything.
Then this mutual friend asks me if i’d organise a holiday away for us. I say yes but then the next day in the groupchat she asks this guy if she wants to bring his new girlfriend?
Am I overreacting for a.) thinking it’s weird my friend would put me in this awkward position and b.) making my excuses and getting out of this holiday – which would be couples and me 5th wheeling!?
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It’s simple, if you don’t want to do it then don’t.
It’s reasonable for you to say to anyone who hits on you that you’ve just been through a breakup and need a little time to process that. Any man who doesn’t respect that isn’t worth dating anyway.
He’s trying to catch you on the rebound. A lot of guys do this and think it’s an easy win. I’ve seen it so often. He definitely only wants casual.