Our a/c unit recently blew out and broke. I had gotten a quote for it early on. ($5k+, so it’s hefty.) I surprised my husband with the money to pay for it outright and instead of feeling happy and grateful that we had the money to pay for it (and didn’t have to put it on credit or a finance plan), he got mad. He accused me of hoarding cash. I was surprised by it. But I also understand why. I have not really been good at financial stuff for the first half of my life and my family never talked about money. Matter of fact they struggled with money. There were times in my life where I wish I could have stepped in and helped with finances but was too young
To do in my early age, and my parents fought over money constantly.
So in some Ways I don’t know the best practice for communicating finances. Do you ladies have any good advice for this type of thing? I feel really bad but I know deep down we’re both relieved we don’t have to go into debt for something so important (an ac unit in the middle of a heat wave, where we live.) he’s mad but he said he accepts this is what had happened. I’m still shocked by it and thought it would be a nice surprise for him. please let me know your thoughts. any input is appreciated. Thank you.
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I would be surprised too, but that’s largely because I’d assume that my partner would be across our finances enough to know if we had that money or not.
Do you have shared finances with your husband? If not do both of you have visibility on each other’s finances?
You don’t have to share this if you don’t want to, but it might shed some light: how old were you both when you got married? Is there a significant age gap between you and your husband?