Is there anyone around with a partner that is working for creating content for NSFW video games? How is this approached in your relationship? I really don’t know which community to use to ask this and cannot discuss it with anyone…
Are adult games creators actually addicted to such content? How does it work?
I found out some time ago that my partner started working on an adult game and insisted on keeping the details secret. I have a list of reasons to think that he is actually addicted to playing such games and consuming porn, and now I believe he prefers it over real life action. And almost everything I see he has open on his laptop or phone is pornographic. I keep seeing him how he gets constantly aroused when working on the game and I don’t know what to think about it.
I know science says porn addiction is not real, and I want to believe it. I was thinking that is more like a compulsion, but I don’t know what to think of it in my situation because him preferring porn started to affect the relationship.
Thank you to anyone reading, I really don’t know where to ask for opinion or some advice.
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I don’t know what science you’ve been reading but porn addiction IS real and common. While masturbation is healthy in moderation, porn is not. It damages parts of the brain, which makes people more childish and less mature.
Does your partner make money from the NSFW game? Does it feature rape and non consent? If it’s very disturbing content, I would leave him. But that’s up to you.
not me personally, but a friend used to work in a company that made porn games, a tl:dr would be that it didn’t affect his relationship at the time at all (he switched careers about 2 years before the relationship ended)
>Are adult games creators actually addicted to such content?
It’s just a job, any sort of addiction would be 100% person to person, and not a general thing
>How does it work?
I mean, depends what you do, are you an artist that makes the models, or whatever, the friend i mentioned mostly worked with rigging the models, and smoothing out animations, you could just be a coder, where you barely interact with the graphical part, etc.
>I know science says porn addiction is not real
That’s not true at all, idk who told you that, but they lied
From what i’m reading here, the issue isn’t his job at all, it’s just his obsession/addiction to porn, his career choice is just something he decided to do because he enjoys it, and it could even pay decent depending on what kind of stuff he’s working on
NSFW game content creator here. I didn’t get into this stage of my career until after the end of my most recent relationship, but I’ll tell you what I can.
It certainly hasn’t decreased my interest in real live humans or my desire to be in a satisfying relationship. I, like the rest of the dev team, find the content sexually enticing, but that accounts for maybe 20% of what I like about it. It’s mostly about the satisfaction of creating something new.
I don’t want to judge, but based on your description it sounds like your partner is taking it a bit far. It’s easy to let sexual thoughts, in any form, eclipse your whole personality and turn you into a drooling miscreant. But working on an adult game doesn’t give one license to stop being an attentive partner or respectable member of society. If the porn he’s looking at is on his work Discord, work-related social media, or art references, that’s just the nature of the job. If it’s more than that, he may have a problem.
Talk to him. Try to understand what he’s getting out of this content, and communicate your boundaries and needs. There may be some middle ground here that you both find mutually rewarding.
> I know science says porn addiction is not real
You know that do you? Despite the fact that science says that anything that fires the pleasure pathways in the brain can, if exposed habitually, can become an addiction? There is significant evidence of porn addiction.
He has a porn addiction, and given that it’s a psychologic addiction rather than physiological, it’s something that he first needs to accept, and second, wants to change himself. If he doesn’t want to accept it, or try and work beating it as an addiction, your options are either couples counselling or, honestly, not being with him any more.
You need to communicate with him about how it makes you feel and that it’s affecting your relationship. Communication is key.
Porn Games can contain themes that you as his partner don’t want to find out about. Mostly because people jump to the conclusion that every fantasy one has they would want to happen in real life, without even considering that the person with the fantasy has already considered that in real life actions have consequences and real harm can be done. So its likely the person with fantasy has decided because of this consideration they don’t want this fiction happen in real life.
As for the creation of such games. It seems likely that a portion of the creators get high on their own supply. But equally for a good chunk its a job.
You have to first ask yourself if you want to find out about the themes of his games. Seriously consider it. And then whether or not you can have a adult conversation with him about it.
It seems unlikely that wants to talk about it.