Is it a case of being too immersed in work? Not wanting to use vacation time because of no significant other, kids or available friends to spend the time off with?
Question for “workaholic” men, who rarely if ever take a vacation or time off: Do you ever feel like you’re using work as an escape or coping mechanism to take your mind off issues you’re dealing with in your personal life?
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Is it a case of being too immersed in work? Not wanting to use vacation time because of no significant other, kids or available friends to spend the time off with?
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No, I’m on vacation right now after six months of 12-14 hours every weekday and 5-7 hours on weekends. If I wasn’t going to do the work, it wouldn’t get done and my family wouldn’t eat.
Yes and no. I work 5 12s Monday through Friday. I don’t have to work Friday I just choose too. I’m single with no kids. Meeting people is a pain in the ass, dating apps fucking suck, nobody actually wants to date. Nobody can really meet on Friday so might as well work and make extra cash. Saturday and sundays I relax and try to hit up a new spot or trail.
Some of us grind hard, to stay out of trouble.
Good pay + hard work = straight ‘n narrow
I don’t really know what I want to do with time off. So I only take it when I have to, and end up on the naughty list each year for not using it all.
So if I have time off I often just potter around at home working on various projects.
In answer to the question, sometimes. It’s feeling useful and contributing to a team effort to do some great things. So it’s a feeling of inclusion.
If you don’t know your path in life just keep on pushing on and it’ll eventually find you I guess is the motto. Or if you don’t know what to be, at a minimum be useful.
My grandfather worked at a company for 41 years and never missed a day. I assume he would rather be at work than at home with my grandmother.
He was dead by 62.
I want to engulf myself in work now and completely isolate myself from my family for 365 days no complaints no spending, no listening, no planning, conversing, explaining, ignoring, hoping, encouraging, empathizing, sympathizing, confronting, observing, biting tongue, compromising, standing ground, disciplining, conforming, contorting, just all of the “ings.” Because if you stop working, THEY might die. THEY would be embarrassed, THEY would not be able to live a happy life. So if I had 365 days or longer. I would be able to just make an amount available and they will leave me alone because they’re greedy, selfish, tic-toc, instafucked asses will be so god-damned gluttonous they wouldn’t have time for me. Man. Beautiful dream.
Hey, i could be at work putting in effort and making money or I could be home putting in effort for dishes, laundry, cooking, and cleaning but not make any money.
I am literally busier at home than at work.
So i may as well make money.
I actually enjoy work, I enjoy meeting new people and I enjoy making my coworkers laugh. Make no mistake, I never let them into my outside work life.
Well; I’ve been pushing myself for a while. Recently I ended up getting a raise, promotion, and an authorization/expectation to start delegating my work to put me closer to 40 hours. My admins love the change because they get my Saturdays. I like it because I get flexibility back in my life.
I take 1 vacation a year for about a week because I get good value for leave (3 or 4 days gets me 8 or 9 days off) I do it so I can bank my AL when I change jobs it gets paid out to me, having a bonus cash injection of $20k every couple of years is a huge help for things like buying a new car, chipping a chunk off the mortgage and stuff like that. I’ll also put out there that if I take a day off sick the work is there the following day for me, same if I go on leave, sick leave technically exists for me but it’s effectively pointless. Just kicks the can down the road another day
It is more about having my life flushed down the toilet by my parents. Complying to their orders, having some stockholm syndrome. Even believing them for a minute.
Then by the time, realizing how much bullshit were their expectations it is too late. Things they could not achieve and wanted to achieve through me. I am a broken robot by that time and nothing matters.
I might aswell just rot away in my office chair.
Yes. Next question!
Another factor is that I run a team of people and things have a tendency to go off the rails a little when I’m gone. Coming back from vacation means unfucking several things on my return. It’s less stressful to just keep working and keep the production process flowing.
Absolutely