So I (m 21) have only been with 2 women in my life and that was back when I was like 14 and in college. Since college I got stuck into work only coming home to seep and shower and because of this my relationships all just kinda faded away.
Now I’ve taken a step back from working due to an accident I had and realized how lonely I am so I’ve started using tinder and I matched with a girl who was just on there for sex so I messaged her and we are talking but how do I tell her I don’t know anything about sex without scaring her off completely
TLDR: I had no social life after I left school and meet with this girl on tinder and don’t know how to tell her I have very little experience and will more then likely disappoint her in the bed without scaring her off
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you’re really young, it’s ok to have no experience, if she go away because of that, it’s most likely that she is not open minded and not good for you, dont blame yourself, ur fine
don’t make a big deal of it. just in the course of conversation of telling about yourself, maybe mention or allude to the fact that you haven’t been someone who’s been with many (or any) women. that way she’s simply aware
there is nothing wrong with not having experience. hopefully this person wont be rude about it, i would just say it lightly that you are not as experienced as them. dont take it too personal if they decide it isnt a good fit, they just suck if they hold that against you. dont worry. you are all good, and hey they could potentially like the fact you arent as experienced. some people do like that. i hope it all goes well though!
Only one way to get experience man. Try not to worry about it and just act natural. If it goes wrong then move onto the next. You’re not in a life or death situation here, just be yourself and the rest will fall into place in time.
I wouldn’t mention it unless something goes really wrong
You know the explanation you just wrote to all of us on reddit?
Just tell her that.
I really hate when men go into this, it’s so dramatic intense and to be completely unPC unsexy. I know we’re supposed to listen and not judge, safe space etc but it’s not that serious.
Sex is instinctual, you’ve been with two women you get it. There isnt going to be a test, insert and thrust, try new and different things as the situation calls for it, in the moment. If you’re respectful and listening, you often get to try again, right there in the moment.
You go just the same way ones gets to Carnage Hall; Practice, practice, practice!
As a 43-year-old female, just tell her that you’re not very experienced yet, but you would love to learn. It’s OK to be honest about that, it’s actually kind of part of the fun is teaching one another thing.