I’m 34, two kids, no backup. Walked away from a stable job because I couldn’t take the bullshit anymore.
Now I’m building something that actually matters to me. Some days I feel sharp, clear, alive. Other days I feel like a lunatic talking to myself in a room no one else believes in.
Wife doesn’t get it. Friends vanished. It’s just me, a laptop, and the creeping suspicion I’ve completely fucked my life.
Anyone been here?
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Nope. Keep going. As long as you can cover bills. Follow your dreams. Too many miserable people. Don’t add to them.
It’s going to be a lonely rough road/ but don’t quit. Or know when to quit. And pivot.
Well if it’s any consolation I have 4 kids at home a gf and I was just told my company is downsizing, I’m no masochist but I too love the challenge lol could also be I have Christ on my side 🙏 so gotta start looking ASAP
Work hard my friend. A positive mindset won’t get you there you need to sacrifice everything, all your free time, maybe even your sanity if you truly want to be successful. You have 2 children you need to look after. This isn’t just about you
I’m curious about what you’re building. Can you share anything about that?
Not sure if the thing you’re building is a business, but I’m going to assume it is. I have a great stable job, and I’ve considered building a business on the side, but one thing that stops me, apart from a lack of time (and placing a big priority on my health) is not knowing if there is any demand for my product idea.
Have you done much research on the thing you’re building, to have a reasonable idea if it’s something that will at least pay the bills if it’s a success?
Might start my own but I’m honestly not too sure at the moment I need to do a little huddle this weekend.
I fully get this. I know that you can do it. I am currently in the process of phasing out my “main work” to fully working on my business. It can be hard but keep going.
Killdozer?
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You’re delusional until you make it
Self reflection is a blessing and a curse
36m here, same situation except I’m not building anything. Just still sitting in awe of the Mastercraft I just pulled to turn years of professional success into a dumpster fire.
I’ve successfully started and sold my own company for 7 figures. I’m also working on a new project that I think has big potential. So I understand, but I also think the mention of your wife not getting it is troublesome. You’re in a partnership, and I think you should either try getting her on board with what you’re doing or come to some compromise that will allow you to continue but with concessions that appease her. That could be part time work to reduce financial risk, or a time limit until you return to a normal 9 to 5.
I’ll add this as a reality check, even though it’ll make me come across as a huge bummer: there are very few novel ideas left in the IT/AI space. The idea of improving IT for small businesses that lack resources is good, but it’s also an obvious problem that many of the biggest players are already putting a lot of money into solving. That doesn’t mean you should give up. But you should make sure that you have some differentiator that would make your solution better than the extremely polished solutions that those companies will be launching (or have already launched).
Doing my thing for a few hours on the side. Wish I had this courage. I commend you man. Keep it going! The worst thing you can do is not even try, & that’s borderline an objective statement.
Hey let’s be besties!!! 34 two kids, walked away from a 75k year job. And honestly I have no clue what’s going to happen but I’ve lost about 50lbs. I’ve reconnected with my kids and I snuggle my dogs and go on walks and bask in the sunshine…idk I’m just happy I suppose.