As the title says. I’m 22F and had broken up with my girlfriend of two years recently. I’ve known her since entering college and have been roommates since I started dating her. She didnt take the breakup well and I feel like she could be in the verge of committing suicide. For a long time she’s had this trauma of being abandoned by her loved ones and I made it worse by leaving her.
The thing about our relationship is that from the start, I’ve always felt like I’m not fully committed to this relationship because I still have a lot of things I want to do. For two years, we’ve kept our relationship secret (because we live in a conservative country) so whenever I introduce her to people, I just say she’s my “roommate” or “we’re just coursemates” etc. As much as I prefer a private relationship, keeping this relationship closed, at the same time, limited us to hold hands, hugging, giving her endearing words in public. All of these we do it behind closed doors.
We’ve also had big fights over minor disagreements and I dont have the energy to keep fighting for this anymore. There are some parts of her attitude and behaviour that made me feel uncomfortable. I’ve told her this and even asked to breakup last year but she took it terribly, she didn’t want to let me go and begged me to stay, telling me that she will change. So I gave her few chances but her actions are still the same.
So our recent fight was the last straw and I can’t take it anymore. I broke up with her. But she’s not taking it well. I’ve set my boundaries but she’s still begging me to stay, and be roommates in college again.
What’s worse is that she’s close friends with my close friends and they do not have a clue that we’ve been dating.
This relationship is not for me. I wonder if there’s anyone who’ve had more or less the same experience as I do? And what you did to get out of it. Thanks
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I got your answer and you wont like how I present it but pay attention cuz it will solve your problem…sorry, English is my fourth language and imm practicing…what you do is dont double down on stupidity. it isnt working out and it wont work out in the future…so you move out and then find someone who wants what you want..you do this by using your new experience, with something you dont want, to not do the exact same thing again. Ps why you worried about your friends? how close can they be if nobody knows you are dating. Guess they wont know you aren’t dating when that ends..sooooo, not really a concern is it? unless the real issue is that you want to be able to hold hands, kiss and lick someones taint in public, jsut like everyone else on the planet.
Solving your problem is as easy as moving out( how hard will you make that? cuz that is easy too)
edit: shit my mistake, forgot to check. I didnt realize your account was one of those years old ones, with endless deleted stuff, seemingly blank..please forgive me and do not spam me with things that will make no sense.