Context:
I am 23m and my gf is 22F (in college). We have been together for 2+ years. She is a people pleaser and will go out when her new friends pester her to go out.
Subject:
We have had an honestly good relationship but on her birthday week, she had begun going out again (Which I was cool with initially). It has become a snowball effect. For the past 2 months, she has been going out regularly (3-4 times a week) and getting home past 4am. “Living her 20s”. On occasion missing work. On most nights that we do see eachother, she has little no energy and falls asleep in 30 mins or is nodding off while we have our “quality time”. We did have a talk a few weeks ago, which she said she was in the wrong and will dial it back.
Last week, she again went out (again, chill with once in a while.) and again today when I get home from work I get a text saying she’s going out at 9 (midway through the time we hang out) and again on Friday.
Kinda feels like the talk we had didn’t really mean much. Feeling like our schedules, lives, and priorities did a 180 from eachother.
I do really love her and she has talked to me planning to have 4 kids before 30 but I don’t want to be an a-hole that strings her along. As I want to be married before having kids (and a wife that has her “big girl job” as she says).
Tldr: gf keeps going out and it’s affecting our relationship and her going to work. I don’t want to marry someone who will “be ready to settle down” when she gets her 9-5 in 3 years.
Should I stick with her? Have another Convo? Idk, thanks for any and all input.