I’m going through a hard time because I felt in live with a very gringo guy. We met in my city and we had a fantastic month together. Since the beginning I notice something that I took as red flag, the first days, he wasn’t answering my text till he finished his working shift. We continue with the meeting time and kinda relationship in long distance but he look in love but he I think he doesn’t make time for calls. Me as a Latina, we want to call our partner like every night. He said that he talks to me more than even his closest person. What are other cultural shocks that I have to know. I’m very passionate and want the full of the love.
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Gringos aren’t as passionate as Latinos
My latino hubs said we can leave the conversation until we’re out of work. The only things we text during work hours are memes and odds and ends like groceries that we need to coordinate.
ETA: Cultural differences could be he’s less emotionally open, different dinner time, no sobremesa, different customary food and drink, how you celebrate holidays and which ones, family relationships… Depends on the culture you’re specifically from too.
How old are you both? Culturally there can be some differences, but its hard to say without more details. A month is not a very long time to date, most gringos wouldnt have a phone call everyday. Also some people focus on work during work hours, not just a gringo thing.
For starters realize that he is an individual; you are not dating an entire ethnicity. He will have things you like, things you hate, and the price of admission to that relationship is accepting that not everything will be as you would like it to be. It cuts both ways, and both sides could decide that the price of admission is too high and thus to end it. Such is life.
I’m Hispanic, and I’m guessing that the first that you would figure out about me in a hurry is that I don’t care to be attached to my phone as if it were an appendage. Case in point I don’t even know where it is right now. Not being obsessively connected to social media actually gives me a happy peaceful feeling. I turned off notifications for everything but phone calls. Heck here’s the kicker; I don’t get to carry my phone at work.
I guess you would say I have more red flags than a Chinese pride day parade.
If he’s from Anglo-America I can say it’s a culture thing. It’s pretty normal for most couples to barely talk during the work day unless they work at the same spot.
I am a gringo, culturally, and I felt smothered by my Mexican ex girlfriend. I felt bad because she suffered when I pushed her away. Neither of us were wrong, our language of love was just different
When people are at work you can’t expect them to be available to waste time chatting with you. Don’t be childish. It’s not a gringo thing, it’s called being busy at work.
No problem with this, but why put “as a Latina” when you’re a gay man?…..Just curious.
I’ve met many gringa tourists, and in my experience, even texting with them feels very different . They usually come across as colder. When I text with someone from here, it’s much warmer and more engaging, with stickers, gifs, voice notes, video messages,etc… Sometimes I get so busy working that I forget to eat, but I still almost always reply, even if a lot of time has passed. Just sending a funny sticker is often enough to show someone’s you’re thinking about them.
If the person you’re dating is remote working without a local job or legal status, it’s probably safe to say you’re dating a glorified tourist who’ll be gone soon.
I don’t think that has anything to do with being Latino. I live surrounded by Latin Americans in a Latin American country and not everyone want to “call their partners every night”, not even a majority, in my experience. I’m not saying that’s good nor bad, but it has nothing to do with being latino. We have to stop fomenting this absurd stereotype of us being extremely passionate about everything (and with all things involving love life in particular). It has nothing to do with our cultures.