To give some background to my situation, my husband and I were hosting family this past weekend and it had been a known plan in the works for months. He and I had a list of tasks to fulfill leading up to it, to which I had spacing out and completing. Husband had been kicking it down the road…until the day came. I have a history of being more high strung, to which I have greatly compromised on over the years because he is quite the opposite. No “nagging,” just questions of “what are your plans this weekend?” until the weekend arrived, and there was still a lot to do on his end still.
I had to sacrifice my plans that morning to help him out. There was no avoiding it, since there were crucial things that needed to be cleaned to facilitate having guests sleeping over. We’ve talked it over and repaired the situation, but I still feel like I completely lost out on half of my day and we had plans to shop for plants at a local sale, which he was aware of. He hasn’t made any indication of making it up to me, so I’m going to bring it to his attention.
Which leads to my question, is it common for there to be extra steps after repairing a conflict? I feel satisfied in our mutual understanding of what unfolded that morning, but I feel like I deserve more, bluntly put.
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If conflict is the result of someone’s error (procrastinating, in this case), It’s common for one party to admit fault when trying to repair conflict. Like, did he do that? Accepting accountability for your actions is kinda a main part of being a grownup.
And making it up to you should involve concrete actions to make sure the situation doesn’t happen again. Promises of change without actual change is simple manipulation. You’re using empty words with no intent of improvement to get someone to leave you alone.