Update: I have decided no response is best. As she hates being ignored! Also, hubby said he isnt going tomorrow because he just saw her Thursday AND Friday and he isnt going there after working all weekend! 🏆
You can read previous posts to see just how ridiculous my mil is. We are pretty much no/very low contact now. And its been so good for me. But when we are all together, we dont really talk to each other at all, yet she continues to play the pity party acting like an angel, but is such a piece of work. She has tried to play mommy to my 2 kids and I cut her off as much as I could.
She sent out a mass text to the whole family- “Spaghetti family dinner Sunday night. 5 pm. Everyone come, it would make me so happy.” I replied (I don’t normally to group texts), “I already have plans with some friends, won’t be able to make it.” Simple, but at least I replied. Her text back, “Oh good, send everyone else.” Meaning, my husband and kids. I didnt reply. Stupid response from her, but wasnt gonna let it get to me because its not that big of a deal. She privately texts me 2 hours later when I hadnt replied yet…. “”Hey I didn’t mean to sound like I was hurting your feelings earlier when I said send everybody else. We will miss you. I’m sorry I didn’t mean it to hurt your feelings ♥️””
So why not just send “we will miss you” in the group text? Now you look like an ass to 14 people.
I havent replied. Should I? Should I be snarky with a simple- “No worries. Enjoy dinner.” “Noted.” Or just a thumbs up? I want her to sweat it out for a while because I am sick of her running her mouth and acting like theres a halo on her head when shes truly just a bitch.
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No reply is the best reply
Personally I would not reply. You already told her there were other plans.
No reply. Let her stew
“No worries. For you to hurt my feelings, I would have to care what you think.”
(Yeah, yeah, I know – can’t send that but you can always dream🤪)
The kids tell me that ‘k’ is the rudest response that still has plausible deniability.
And I hope the others aren’t going
I wouldn’t even dignify her with a response
Silence speaks volumes, NO REPLY if you haven’t already.
👍🏼 is the only appropriate reply.
You’d be well within your rights to not respond at all. “No worries, enjoy dinner!” Is exactly how I would respond if I’m being honest. It isn’t an open invitation for a conversation about the text and for her to get into it with you, and it politely gives “you don’t matter to me and your negative remarks don’t effect me” vibes. That would drive my MIL insane.
Don’t reply. Let her sweat.
Ha, I bet someone said something.
Ignore her. If it’s brought up by anyone else just say something like “oh it doesn’t matter don’t worry, she’s irrelevant.”
She let her mask slip in the group chat. If somebody else thought it was horrible enough to call her out, I would let her stew about it. Her so called apology is only to save face unless she regularly takes responsibility for her actions. Considering you’re LC, I think I know the answer. Your response would only be to make her look good.
I’m in favor of being too confused to know how to reply.
Your feelings weren’t hurt, you never said they were. If pressed, well, it was rude, but whatever. Shrug.
Somebody called her out and she wants to be able to say she apologized. But it’s about what she said, not how you reacted. She’s trying to shift the focus to you and claim your feelings are hurt so she can take credit for “fixing” that. Pass!
Nope.
Leave her on read. She showed her arse to everyone on the group chat.
If you’re low/no contact, don’t respond. Every response is an invitation to continue to act how she wants. Edited to add this: I wish I had read your previous post first. You gotta stop taking this woman’s money. That is the whole problem. How are you low to no contact but y’all are taking money from her?
Don’t respond or send the kids.
If she’s really sorry she would say it in the group text.
Just don’t bother replying
I wouldn’t respond. Let her look like the clown that she is.
I would have your husband text back in the group chat asking about the “oh good” part!
I’d go with the thumbsup I hate that emoji I find it Rude it really gives no thought into what you send them back to the other person.
Silence is a response
If you’re NC be NC.
Oh, good? OH, GOOD? Nope. She meant that. What a beast.
Why respond at all? Don’t feed the troll (MIL)