I, (23M) live with two roommates. We’ll say they’re names are K(24M) and D(19M). Due to how much each of us make, I pay my portion of rent and usually about half of D’s rent. K pays his rent exactly and not a penny more. I don’t have an issue seeing as I have to do less household chores. I also get my own room, while K and D share a room.
D approached me today about how K keeps touching himself while D is in the room and it makes him uncomfortable. He’s asked that I approach K about it because if he does, it won’t end well. I told him I can talk to K about it after I wake up from my nap.
Now I’m having trouble figuring out the best way to approach this issue. I know if things go awry I will end up paying 2/3 of the rent, if not more, so I’m acting as a peacekeeper.
How should I approach a topic as uncomfortable as this?
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Offer to suck him off
Have a jerk session
I mean, K is being indecent. Like, in the legal way. He’s being a sex pest and you owe it to D to take care of him. I understand that you want economic security, but I imagine you would also want a house without a total creep in it? You both need to tell K to shape up, remove him and work with the consequences without the stress of having someone so improper under the roof.
If you can’t beat him, join him.
Go away. Baitin
Tell D to suck it up
Tell the guy to use the bathroom, doing anything like that in-front or near another un-consenting person is a big no no.
Why is this your situation? Tell him to talk to his roommate
Why would you want to ruin a good time
“Look, I know that’s awkward to bring up, but it’s important to respect each other’s space. Can you make sure that kind of thing stays private when you’ve got company or a roommate in the room? It’s making others uncomfortable, and I don’t want things to get tense. I just figured I’d talk to you directly before it becomes a bigger issue.”
Don’t try to moralize. He’ll take it as judgement. Be prepared for pushback. If he gets defensive, stay firm and composed. “I’m not here to fight. It’s just about being respectful to the space we all live in.”