Just had a really strange night and honestly, I don’t know how to feel about it. I could really use some advice…
Last night around 2:30 AM, I was asleep in my room when I suddenly woke up out of nowhere and saw a dark figure standing over my bed. Naturally, I freaked out and after a second, I realized it was my roommate, whose room is right across the hall. I immediately asked him what the hell he was doing just standing there watching me sleep. He muttered something weird about forgetting something in my room and looking for it, then quickly ran off and shut my door. It took me about an hour to fall back asleep.
The next morning, I tried to confront him about it, and he gave me some BS excuse about thinking I was awake and claiming he knocked before coming in (which he didn’t). I didn’t have time to push it further since I was already running late for work.
Then when I got home, I found out from our other roommate that he packed a bag and said he’d be staying at his parents place for a week or two. After that, he sent me this two-minute Snapchat video apologizing but he also tried to justify what he did by saying he was stressed and needed to talk to me about something important. He said I should reach out when I’m ready to talk.
So… what do I even do here? I feel like this crossed a serious line and I don’t know if there’s any coming back from it. I’m honestly not sure I want to talk to him at all it just feels super awkward and uncomfortable now. Is this friendship even salvageable? I mean we live together with a third roommate and we’ve still got 4 months left on the lease.
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Put a lock on your door. Get a really good one that’s really difficult to pick. I’m not sure if I would want to listen to what he has to say. I had a roommate come into my room in the middle of the night once but he immediately woke me up to talk to me. It wasn’t like he was creeping in and out.
I would absolutely not even attempt to salvage a relationship. There’s really no explanation that is acceptable here. If you have to stick out the lease, please install a lock on your bedroom door. If you can move out, that would probably be best for your safety. Have you ran a background check or know anything further about him? Did you tell the other roommate? Please be very careful. I let an ex stay with me for a couple months while he tried to find a place and we had broken up. He was sleeping in the living room regularly and I was awoken by him laying at the foot of my bed clutching my legs in the middle of the night. Obviously way different cuz we had dated, but I’m really sorry something similar happened to you. Very few things are more terrifying than going to sleep and being woken up by someone unexpected in the dark.
Yeah you need to be away from this person
If he doesn’t have a note from his doctor, that he sleepwalks, move out tomorrow!!!!!!!!!!! and I don’t mean like some regular note I mean like a test was done that he sleepwalks
Whoa.. like others said. Lock your room. And if possible spend as much time elsewhere as possible. Get away from this. This is creepy and weird. Not to mention trauma inducing.
You and your roommate should immediately kick him out. He is not safe.